Whinge alert!
I am due today with my first baby. I was feeling ok about it until yesterday afternoon when I started to get bombarded with texts and phone calls wishing me luck today 
I got really stressed and a bit tearful!
Do people not understand how it works?!
I know I should be grateful that I have lots of family and friends who care about me and are wishing me well so I do feel dreadful for feeling this way...but I can't help it, it is stressing me out big time!! Perhaps it's a sign that things are starting...the irritability and grumpiness 
.
Is it really mean to just ignore people when they call and text? I just feel like I can't deal with repeating myself!
Yours very grumpily 
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Due today...but no sign of movement. Fed up!
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crazybutterflylady · 13/05/2011 09:25
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Flisspaps ·
13/05/2011 09:44
It really pissed me off too, the phone calls and texts from well meaning nosy people. I found that posting this link, daily, on my FB page kept most people off their phones though. You'll get some people who take the silence as you being in labour, but after a couple of days of being ignored they should get the message!
The worst was one who would ring 'just to see how you are today' when they never EVER phone me any other time 
Sadly not everyone was mopped up via FB.
JBrd ·
13/05/2011 11:38
Oh, I'll join the moan! I'm 40+4 today and have been completely irrational and emotional all week. You get so fixated on that one date, it's ridiculous. And the text/email/phone messages from well-meaning friends and relatives don't help at all! Neither does the fact that all my NCT friends gave birth this week - one of them was due after me and actually hijacked my due date!
Looking at their pictures makes me fall apart, I actually cried (a lot) - it's pathetic. Going round to one of them later today to meet their new baby, I'm half dreading it because I know I'll well up again.
The other half hopes the old wives tale of cuddling babies helping labour to get started is true
Whiteybaby ·
13/05/2011 13:08
Can I join in on the group moan? Am due today with DC2. DD1 was a week early so fully expected (and everyone said the same) that this one would be early too! No sign whatsobloodyever!. Am so tired of wearing the same pair of shoes that will fit my fat feet and the same tracksuit bottoms that fit my enormous tum! Am desperately trying to enjoy the quiet before the storm but am just fed up now. I'm a big believer in state of mind affecting labour and so at this rate he may never come out to meet his grumpy mum . Oh and also DH seems completely unsympathetic to how rubbish this is now...
Annnnnnd breaaathhheee... sorry major moan there!
notnowbernard ·
13/05/2011 13:13
Just barging in to send you all good luck vibes
These threads ALWAYS remind me of the run up to DC3's birth last year when I was The Most Miserable Woman On The Planet
It's so horrible being overdue. Mine were late, later and missed-induction-by-2-hrs so I can sympathise hugely
Not long now, though... 
(My most hated well-meaning comment with all pregnancies)
crazybutterflylady ·
13/05/2011 15:09
So nice to know I'm not alone!
Fliss that's genius, have nicked it thanks
JBrd have just met my NCT friends for lunch and one was leaking amniotic fluid and having contractions so said she was going to hospital on her way home... So I know how you feel! She is due in 2 weeks.
I suppose I at least know I only have 2 weeks at the most but its not helping much!! MW scheduled sweep for next Friday. Uh. Apparently head is engaged but she didn't seem hopeful. Hey ho!
Hope you/we all have your/our babies soon!
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saldoozer ·
13/05/2011 15:37
Can I join in the moaning? I'm now 41+3, have been having pre labour signs since sunday. Had sweep on tuesday which didn't work and booked in for induction on tuesday. Fed up of getting niggles which then fizzle out to nothing, think I would rather have no signs. Bump feels heavy and pelvic region achey I seem to have so many signs of early labour but it never progresses. Really strong BH's sometimes every 5 mins for hours and an upset stomach .
This is made worse by phonecalls and texts off people. I do ignore them sometimes but then instead of leaving me alone people think i'm either in labour (i wish) or something terrible has happened (in which case texting them back would not really be a priority)
saldoozer ·
13/05/2011 20:26
stiffybyng I know what you mean, continually advised to eat pineapple or have sex. I have tried both and neither worked have also tried clary sage oil bump massage, holding someone elses baby, spicy food, Evening primrose oil and nipple stimulation and none worked.
Also with you on the crying, hormones coupled with the fact that I don't really have a lot to do except waiting to go into labour result in many tears, also when I do cry there is 10x more tears than usual. DH is being very nice about it but it is frustrating as even I know that the crying is irrational.
I don't really want to be induced but at least I know I can't be pregnant much longer.
Wallace ·
15/05/2011 19:58
Oh no I always text people on their due date just to let them know I'm thinking of them. Sorry
peedieworky ·
15/05/2011 23:50
Stiffybyng you made me laugh out loud!! Am now 40+6 & growing weary of all the "advice". Nice to know people care but... Constant texts and same thing - if don't reply they think am in labour and start harassing me more. Then start calling if feel been too long. After a failed sweep today (cervix out of reach) despite baby being in launch position for weeks I really lost it and spent most of my morning crying! People try to be helpful and tell you to relax and enjoy but is so hard! Can't sleep, can't sit comfortably for more than 10 mins, can't waddle walk very far or do very much as feels like baby's head is scraping against my pelvis and like Whiteybaby I now only have 2 tops and one incredibly age/pregnancy inappropriate denim skirt (a loan from a friend) which doesn't feel as if it is cutting me in half.. Doesn't exactly make for relaxing time off
Ah.... I feel better after that rant And have booked myself in for a reflexology session next week in hope that gets things started before the planned induction at 40+10 
Whiteybaby ·
16/05/2011 12:38
Hello.. am still here too. I cannot believe this baby is still hiding out! I had quite a lot of braxton hicks last night and very faint pains but nada.. I keep going to bed wondering and then waking up in the morning still pregnant (after the required hourly trips to the loo of course!) I even dreamt I lost my plug last night.. .
Sweep booked for weds and having missed all of this last time I am dreading it... am a bit of a wuss and prude and the thought of the midwife having a good rummage around is not filling me with joy!
At home with DD today and praying she might actually go to sleep (she is currently singing in her cot) as I really want to slump on the sofa for a bit. We watched rather a lot of Cbeebies this morning until I could drag myself out.
Any baby arrivals out there??? bub, know how you feel seeing others arrive.. a close friend of mine had hers a month ago now at 32 weeks and although I am delighted that he is now home and doing brilliantly I cant believe he is over a month old and I am still waiting.. I was supposed to be 3 weeks before her!
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crazybutterflylady ·
17/05/2011 07:57
Welcome kiwi and vakant... hope you're not hanging out here too long! kiwi it sounds like you just have a very hospitable environment for babies... I know that doesn't help much but it's a nice talent to have
Haha, I love all the pineapple advice; I heard you actually have to eat about 10 a day for it to have any effect and even if you could stomach that it's a bit of a gamble - and you'd get the trots!! Hasn't stopped me eating it or having my RLT tablets... but still. Oh and another NCT delivery yesterday afternoon - that's 3 early babies out of 6 now and the other 2 are due in 2 weeks.
I feel a bit weird this morning, my lady bits feel like I am about to have a heavy period, you know that sort of tender feeling. And tmi warning I just had some mucousy, snotty stuff when I went for a wee... but then reading on here, that could be nothing and I could still have a good 3 or 4 days at least! Or it could be nothing at all. Uh.
I'm destined for a big baby anyway - DH is huge and was 10lb at birth - so I could do without it getting much bigger in there, thanks very much.
Hopefully we'll have some arrivals today
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