All I'm looking for really is reassurance so any kind words are welcome and positive stories are especially welcome!
I'm due to have my first baby in three weeks. I'm obviously really looking forward to meeting him but as time wears on I find I'm getting more and more anxious about the birth. In the last three months three friends have had their first babies - the first was an elcs for a breech baby, the second was a forceps delivery and the third was a very slow induction leading to a long labour and "a very difficult birth" (don't know the details yet as it was only last night). I know it sounds irrational but I was hoping that at least one of them would be a normal, relatively uncomplicated birth so I could hope for the same for myself. News of this latest birth has me in tears
On top of that I have been reading up on various procedures in the belief that the better informed I am the better prepared I'll be. While I still believe that's true, I think all this knowledge has freaked me out somewhat as I'm far to aware of all the horrible things that can happen. I'm meeting the midwife today to discuss my birth plan and I'm worried that I'll just get hysterical and she's not the understanding type. I don't dare talk to my mum about this because she had two absolutely horrendous births (and I mean off the scale horrific) plus one ok birth so she can't really pretend to me that it's all going to be ok (which TBH is what I need - think I've had an overdose of honesty!)
So lovely MNetters could you be substitute mums and soothe me a bit? Also can I ask if there's anything else I need to include in my birth plan today besides the following? I'm going to tell my MW that:
I want to go the MLU and use the pool if possible
I do NOT under any circumstances want a forceps delivery and I am going to put in writing that a C section is the only option for me in difficult circumstances
I am open to using gas and air and pethidine
I am not bothered one way or the other about a managed/natural third stage and will go with the flow
I do not want my waters broken without being expressly asked first and an explanation given as to why it might be necessary
I can totally tell I'm becoming neurotic, which I know is not good :(
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Help me not to freak out
WriterofDreams · 03/12/2010 12:26
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