So basically we both are exhausted from lack of sleep and had a row this morning - DP insists that I am being 'too soft' on our 5 week old and that I should feed him less frequently (currently every 2 hrs at night, which does not let us sleep properly; similar during the day) and that I should let the baby cry for his food a little bit. In his opinion that will help to stretch the time between feeds. He also says the baby will just become fat if I continue like this.
I however think that the very last point about the baby becoming fat is rubbish as first of all he was born low weight and still looks smaller than other babies his age.
I do not believe that letting him cry will help to stretch time between the feeds - if he is hungry, he is hungry and crying is not going to make him less hungry! He actually does not even normally cry as such, just grumbles - should I wait till that becomes a full blown cry?...I don't think so as I really don't want my grumbling sweet baby to develop a habit of crying loudly...
And then, is there such a thing as 'being too soft' when we are talking about a 5 WEEK (not month or year!) old?? He is just a baby, fgs!
But I still can't help but feel that maybe I am wrong. Maybe I am being too soft and give in too easily. It's my first baby and I haven't got a clue. So maybe DP is right. It just makes me so angry- it's easy for him to say 'let him cry'- it is me who will have to listen to the cry and it would make me feel awful. It wouldn't help me/us to sleep better - I can't even bear listening to him grumbling for too long at night and would just be lying there awake listening to his cry feeling a sh... mother!
What do you think I should do and if I am right, how do I convince DP that babies need to be fed soon after they start showing signs they are hungry?...
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TrippleBerryFairy · 10/09/2009 08:41
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