Just after some advice on an extreme comfort feeder. DS2 was ebf to 6mo and is now being blw and bf. From the start he was a big comfort feeder, and I just went with it putting it down to him being a newborn and being happy that it was good for my supply which I felt I struggled with with DS1. I just assumed that he would settle with age and to an extent he did settle during the day by about 15 weeks.
However his need to comfort nurse all evening and night has continued and if anything, intensified. At 7mo he still cluster feeds in the evening from 7pm and has never slept a stretch of longer than 1.5 hours at night. He stays downstairs attached to me until I go to bed where we co sleep and he is attached to me pretty much all night. He will fall into a seemingly deep sleep and I try to put him in his crib but he either immediately or soon wakes up and starts frantically screaming inconsolably. We have had a few futile attempts at DP comforting him but they last no longer than a few minutes because the screaming is so desperate it feels cruel. During the night he will wake every 20 minutes to hourly and cry if he realised my nipple isn't in his mouth.
I would say I am exhausted but I don't really notice any more. But I do know I am achey, have daily headaches and in desperate need of a bit of physical space. I sometimes get to the point where thw suckling starts to go through me a bit.
This is causing constant arguments between me and DP because I resent him getting to do his own thing and me not being able to go anywhere or have a single second to myself. It is probably worse because I havent caught up on any sleep in 7 months. It also means that we have zero time for a sex life because A. I can't put DS2 down long enough and B. Because I physically don't want to be touched a single second longer if I do manage to put DS2 down.
I know the time goes quickly with our babies and I do love bf DS2. I would be happy to feed him hourly at night even if he would only settle for just a little while on his own. This isn't about DP being selfish because he is very supportive and understanding but he is understandably fed up too as am I and I also have to be realistic because I am worried that me and DP are becoming increasingly distant.
Any advice or experiences please?
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TipTapTop · 14/08/2015 09:23
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