Well we have made it to six months since steve died.

[onlyjoking9329]

i wasn't sure we could get to here but we have and i am glad that we have made it.
the kids have been pretty amazing really given their autism, they are doing very well and if they can do it then so shall i.
this is not what we chose for our future but it is what we have, whilst the last couple of years have been very difficult, i am begining to not be so fearful of the future, i am not sure where this path will take us and i don't really understand how we were given this path, but it is the path we have been given for whatever reason and we will try and skip down it rather than lay on it screaming that life is not fair.
i know that Steve would be proud of us all and in some way that is a comfort.
thankyou all for all the words of kindness and wisdom that you have given to our family over the last couple of years, it has help us to not feel so alone.

[AnotherFineMess]

Hi OJ, lovely post, well done all of you.

[TheGreatChristmasEvie]

Very inspirational post Onlyjoking.
I wish you all the best for the future..I hope the path leads to some lovely things for you all.You certainly deserve them..

[dizzyjingles]

OJ whenever I'm sad about my mum I think of you too. I'm so glad to see this post and see you're doing ok. I do hope you all manage to relax and enjoy your holiday over Christmas and please know I'll be raising my glass and having a silent toast to Steve on Christmas day when my aunt brings out the trifle

[Hassled]

All the best - will be thinking of you.

[MerlinsBeard]

OJ i was only thinking of you recently (and MB too)

no words just know that you are still thought of xx

[DingDongMerrilyOnEI]

well done OJ i have followed your story and think you are a very strong and brave woman and are a credit to your family as they are to you i am sure steve is watching proudly over you and your DCs xx lots of luck and strength for the future
xx ei xx

[retiredgoth2]

Hey OJ

...well done, and Good Luck!

...and thanks for the help and support you have given to others when things are still so raw for you.

[onlyjoking9329]

thanks, we will be having trifle on steves beach on christmas day in lanzarote, i will take him some southern comfort too, gotta do something with the half a bottle he left behind! the kids are taking him a christmas card and will once again write messages in the sand.

[MerlinsBeard]

we will be having trifle too

you are an inspiration OJ, truly

[stealthsquiggle]

Steve would be so proud of you all, OJ, and especially you and, as others have said, the helping hand you have held out to other MNers going through similar things.

I hope Christmas is what you all need it to be.

[dizzyjingles]

what a lovely way for them to remember their dad they couldn't have hoped for better in the support and guidance you give them.

don't forget a wee rum and coke for yourself too thought

[onlyjoking9329]

not sure about being an inspiration, i think i am having a midlife crisis, i have had pink bits in my hair, i am keeping well away from tattoo studios and piercing places just to be on the safe side

[dizzyjingles]

rofl, you'll be rolling on here in a harley when you get back

[ABudafulSightWereHappyTonight]

It can't be 6 months surely?

You are so fab and doing so well. Doesn't seem like it I am sure.

I really wish you all a lovely peaceful and warm Christmas. The DCs sound totally amazing you know. You should be very proud. Of all of you.

xxxx

[imaginaryfriend]

OJ! I've been thinking about you and wondering how you were getting along. I can't believe 6 months has passed.

Are you still enjoying a nip of rum?

[MerlinsBeard]

pink in your hair?

I take back what i said then

[onlyjoking9329]

you may jest dizzy but i have thought about having another motorbike, thou i am not sure i can cope with the helmet hair

[BreevandercampLGJ]

Oh arse,

You have just robbed my post,.............. granted it came from you via text at the weekend. But, but, I was going to look really witty and erudite.......>

You and MB have been an inspiration.

My love to you all.

[onlyjoking9329]

well i have always kind of fancied pink hair and at the moment i can pretty much get away with anything, the girls say my hair is cool and i look like stephine from lazy town
Elliot say i look more beautiful than.... a beautiful thing, so i think he likes it!

[dizzyjingles]

[thumbElf]

OJ - glad to hear that you are managing - the first Xmas is hard without your LO - we had this last year without Mum - but at least we had a shiny new DS to think about.

Pink bits in your hair sound fab - get yourself a henna tattoo if you are feeling a tattoo-urge - only lasts a week tops (unless it's a really bad one in case it'll last months! and have a fab time in Lanzarote.

[BreevandercampLGJ]

Gawd sakes don't encourage her.

[BONKERZ]

OJ, agree the pink hair does look very cool, hope lanzarote eases the pain a little more, keep going, you are doing well and are an inspiration.

[onlyjoking9329]

well i wasn't feeling the pink hair urge, but the hairdresser asked me what colour i wanted and the word PINK just popped out.
i am having a birthday next week so i am blaming my age for everything.

[toomanywrinkles]

Hello oj, i don't post much but i always look out for your posts.
i have been cheering you on from the sidelines you know, you are amazingly strong,and i feel humble in comparision.
I can see why you were so special to Steve and to your children.
You are without doubt the strongest person that i have ever had the fortune to meet.
i know i don't know you as such, but i feel like i do know you.
you are always so honest and caring in your posts and i know that even thou the last year has been very stressful and difficult for you, that you have always been there to lend a helping hand to others.
You have had a very difficult time recently and i am so pleased to see you sounding so upbeat.
You Have taught me the true value of many things that i have been guilty of taking for granted. I thankyou for that.
XXX