My Dad died in my arms yeaterday

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GentleOtter Thu 06-Nov-08 14:53:42

I have been sitting at my Dad'd bedside at the hospital for a wee while and yesterday afternoon, while cradled in my arms, he slipped away.

During the time we had left, I told him how loved he was, what a wonderful Grandfather to his grandchildren who adored him and read him lovely words that my Mother had written to him in a letter I found that she had written to him years before.

Mum died 20 years ago and I asked her help to take Dad to the Light and that I was ready to let him go to her care and love.
Just seconds before Dad took his last breath, the most beautiful smile shone across his face - almost as if he was seeing someone he had not seen for a long time - and he passed away.

I feel as if I was deeply honoured to have shared in such a profoundly spiritual experience. I feel happy to have held Dad's hand as he was taken by the other hand to a far more beautiful and peaceful place.

The love does not stop.

God bless you my Dad. x

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wilbur Thu 06-Nov-08 14:55:41

Oh gentleotter - I'm so sorry for your loss. I held my father's hand as he died, and you're right, it is an honour. I hope being able to support him as he left you will be a comfort in the months to come. Take care.

FiveGoMadInDorset Thu 06-Nov-08 14:56:43

That made me cry, so glad that it was peacful and that you were there.

chocolateshoes Thu 06-Nov-08 14:57:11

What you have written is beautiful and has moved me greatly. I am glad that you can take comfort in this way and am sure you must have many happy take care

ledodgy Thu 06-Nov-08 14:57:14

Oh that is so sad and wonderful at the same time. It really touched a chord with me because it sounds like exactly when my mum died , I told her to go towards the light where my dad was (dad had died years before) I don't know why I said it , it just sort of came to me. I never understood what people meant when they used to say it was a lovely death but I did then.

You are right it is a deeply spiritual experience and I am so glad you got to share it with him.

LoveMyGirls Thu 06-Nov-08 14:57:35

Wow, i really hope they are together in peace. You sound like wonderful daughter

hambo Thu 06-Nov-08 14:57:49

God bless xx

FattipuffsandThinnifers Thu 06-Nov-08 14:59:24

Gentleotter, I am so sorry for the loss of your father. How wonderful though that you could make his last moments so peaceful and special.

Tortington Thu 06-Nov-08 15:01:33

xxxxxxxxxsorry for your loss

Rhubarb Thu 06-Nov-08 15:01:38

Beautiful post Otter. Give my love to your family and I hope you can have some peace knowing your father has gone to a special place xxx

numptysmummy Thu 06-Nov-08 15:02:22

I'm sorry for your loss and i'm glad you were there for him. I am in tears now as it's bought back memories for me of losing someone i dearly loved. Knowing you were there for him will bring you some peace in the coming wks and months - i know it gave me some comfort.

Bucharest Thu 06-Nov-08 15:05:55

So sorry.

watsthestory Thu 06-Nov-08 15:07:44

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cikecaka Thu 06-Nov-08 15:07:55

Sorry for your loss. Your story is so sad but so beautifully told sad

eandh Thu 06-Nov-08 15:09:56

That was so beautifully written I have tears in my eyes (and reminded me to tell DH to pop in and see his very poorly 95year old Nan in hospital on his way home from work)

Bride1 Thu 06-Nov-08 15:21:25

I wish we could all die like he did when it's our turn.

Salleroo Thu 06-Nov-08 15:28:46

What a lovely post and what a lovely way for him to go. You are a wonderful daughter. x

TheMadHouse Thu 06-Nov-08 15:31:09

You are in my thoughts. it is 8 years to the day that we turned off the ventilator that was keeping my father alive. I too held his hand whilst he died.

I miss him so much and he would have been the best grandad in the world.

I am so sorry for your loss. sad

WhatFreshelleisthis Thu 06-Nov-08 15:33:05

GentleOtter, what a lovely tribute to your dad you have just written. I have goosepimples reading it.

Am so so sorry for the loss of such a loved man xx

Saturn74 Thu 06-Nov-08 15:33:22

What a beautiful post, GentleOtter.
I'm sorry for your loss.

CaptainKarvol Thu 06-Nov-08 15:36:38

That's beautiful. It is an honour to be able to do that for someone.

KerryMum Thu 06-Nov-08 15:38:32

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hazygirl Thu 06-Nov-08 15:39:06

gentleotter im so sorry but glad you were there to say goodbyexxxxxxxx

TigerFeet Thu 06-Nov-08 15:40:28

What a beautiful post GentleOtter. Incredibly moving.

So very sorry for your loss.

VinegarTits Thu 06-Nov-08 15:40:57

sad that is so beautifully sad, your dad was lucky to have you

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