DH is deteriorating (for those who don't know our story, he has cancer of the oesophagus with secondaries in his liver and lymph glands). He's not eating, losing weight and very breathless. He's due a scan and a follow-up consultation but I'm expecting bad news. The oncologist said there was no point in continuing chemo if there was no improvement from the last lot and clearly he's got worse, not better. So far the boys (5 and 4) have just accepted that Daddy is poorly and haven't asked too many questions but the eldest is starting to talk about dying a lot. My Dad died of the same cancer in November and DS knows that Grandad died because he was very poorly and the doctors couldn't make him better. He keeps saying he doesn't want me or DH to die and still wants to see us when he's grown-up and is a grandad. He's also asked me once if Daddy is going to die. I don't want to lie to him (on that occasion I just said that we hoped not) and I don't want them to be unprepared when it happens but equally I don't want to worry them unnecessarily and have them fretting for weeks or even months. Is there a right time and a right way to do this or do you just answer questions as they arise and muddle through?
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Is Daddy going to die? What the heck do I say?
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MummyDoIt · 15/08/2008 09:17
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