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Is she ADVANCED for her age???

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jessicaandbumpsmummy · 15/08/2005 18:13

THe past few weeks Jess has managed to do the following which has really stunned me and DH...

Cover her mouth when she coughs
Colour co-ordinate her stacking cups ie. small orange cup in large orange cup, small pruple cup in large purple cup etc
All the actions to twinkle twinkle little star... including a very good attempt at the "diamond"

Is she normal or just a clever little girl??? She's only 12.5 months old?!

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misdee · 15/08/2005 18:20

dd2 was colour matching at an early age. sge used to go into the cpboard and match cups and lids up correctly. we also have a puzzle ball and she would do it in colour order.

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Pinotmum · 15/08/2005 18:55

She sounds advanced to me - ds doesn't cover his mouth and he's nearly 3. Come to think of it dh doesn't either and he's 43!

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Jimjams · 15/08/2005 19:04

Honest answer? Don't think you can tell. DS1 was a whizz at colour matching by 12 months (we have video of him sorting objects by colour at his 1st birthday party). Age 6 he can't talk, is severey autistic and attends an SLD school. He's still good at colours though

He was quite good at actions then as well thinking about it- doesn't really do it much now though.

By 15 months he could sing twinkle twinkle perfectly in tune- again still can although won't tolerate much music these days.

Enjoy her and don't read too much into things.

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jessicaandbumpsmummy · 15/08/2005 19:05

im really shocked tbh... we havent taught her any of the things she is doing other than she is possibly copying the actions for twinkle twinkle and she has just come out of the blue and done it!

I would say 9 times out of 10 she covers her mouth when she coughs and theres no stopping her with the colour co-ordinating thing - really strange to see my "baby" doing these things!

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jessicaandbumpsmummy · 15/08/2005 19:05

Thanks Jimjams.... appreciate your honesty

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Eaney · 15/08/2005 19:34

I think a lot of what we see in our children does not necessairly mean they are advanced or not it could simply be their personality. Perhap your DD is very ordered.

My DS's nursery were quite concerned one day because my ds had got very very upset about one of the staff putting the Lemon Curd lid on the Jam Jar and the Jam lid on the Lemon Curd Jar. I think he was about 18mths or 2yrs old They had to take into the kitchen to show him that they had resolved it.

Feeling a bit worried I came home and told my DP all about it. He was quiet for a bit and then said 'Who on earth would put the Lemon Curd lid on the Jam Jar?'. That explains it I thought it's just a personality thing. He is still rather obsessive about things turning the TV off when we leave a room because we are wasting energy. Much of his traits he gets from his Dad not sure if they are learnt or genetic.

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jessicaandbumpsmummy · 15/08/2005 19:36

Interesting post Eaney.... maybe i was a bit quick off the mark to think my baby was so clever!!!

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Jimjams · 15/08/2005 19:36

PMSL Eaney

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Nemo1977 · 15/08/2005 19:36

JABM think kids tend to pick up a lot of things without being shown. I know my ds seems to instincitvely know what some things are or how to use them. He also surprised me at 16mths when he started to get a tissue to blow his nose or after he sneezed...most other kids i have seen tend to be happy with a snotty nose...lol Saying that Ds is also quite fussy about having dirty hands etc where as dh and I are not too bothered...of that makes sense..lol

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Eaney · 15/08/2005 19:45

Worse still I was telling DP's two sisters this little story and they both looked at me and said 'And.....'. I'm surrounded by them I thought.

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katierocket · 15/08/2005 19:46

honestly, no I don't think this is particularly remarkable (although I'm sure she's lovely!)

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katierocket · 15/08/2005 19:47

Eaney - just read that, like it
He's quite right though - lemon curd lid on a jam jar? madness.

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Twiglett · 15/08/2005 19:48

eany have to say I'm with your DH and DS on this one

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Charlee · 15/08/2005 19:48

i think its remarkabe ds is 11 months and cant even wave yet let alone cover his mouth or sort cups! he can do the rowing of row your boat though!

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katierocket · 15/08/2005 19:49

just don't get Soupy started on the importance of sorting playmobile into the correct storage boxes...

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Gobbledigook · 15/08/2005 19:49

Ds1 did the colours thing too and lining things up (even in size order!). He doesn't do it so much now (4.5) although he is still quite particular and seems to be very ordered and logical - very like me. He picks up number-type things really quickly too.

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Charlee · 15/08/2005 19:50

ds jsut throws thinga rather than sorts them!

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purpleturtle · 15/08/2005 19:56

But that's good, Charlee! he can play rugby for the All Blacks, or something when he's bigger, while the colour/shape/number sorters are busy being accountants.

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beansontoast · 15/08/2005 20:02

pmsl eaney

jessbumpymum...she will prob continue to amaze you [in her own way]for ever

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bythesouthsea · 15/08/2005 20:04

I knew my DD would be ok when @ 3yrs old she put daddy on the naughty step for burping & told him to leave the paper behind so he wouldn't enjoy it - thats my girl!

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jessicaandbumpsmummy · 15/08/2005 20:05

bythesouthsea - LOVE IT! cant wait til jess starts that!!!

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Caththerese1973 · 17/08/2005 13:14

well i think you can be excused for having a bit of a boast - that does all sound quite startling. But don't rush to pin a 'gifted' label on her - that's nearly always a mistake in my opinion. 'No expectations' is probably the way to go in my opinion, especially at such an early age. Whether the child seems 'advanced' or 'slow' (and I speak as the mother of a very clever little girl whose development was a little on the 'slow' side, in some respects)
like jim jams said, just have fun with her!

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Hattie05 · 17/08/2005 13:22

It is very exciting isn't to watch all these skills first being acquired and used.
But i do dislike the term 'advanced'. Had this thread been a 'let me brag about my dd' i would have just agreed and shut up.
But i hate the word advanced (always telling dp off for saying this about our dd!)
All children are wonderful in their parents eyes and thats all that matters!

Children who are genuinely advanced are actually considered to have special needs in the eyes of the education system, so don't wish it upon anyone.

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Tommy · 17/08/2005 13:38

They can all do different things though! Especially at that age! I think you can pretty much "train" them to do things you want them to do - my brother's DS does "high fives" but mine doesn't cos we don't and haven't ever taught him (and nor will we )
My friend was worried because my DS can write a few letters and her DD can't but she can do toher things my DS can't - all swings and roundabouts

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Rarrie · 17/08/2005 18:36

I agree, Tomy... I think a lot of it is down to what the parents/ other carers teach. Mine (at 21 months) knows at least a dozen colours and can correctly identify them, but does not know the different noises an animal makes. I've taught her colours, but it never occurred to me to make animal noises to her...

All horses for courses, if you know what I mean;-)