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Stroppy, annoying know it all 6 year old DD......arrrrghhh!!

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Barmymummy · 22/07/2009 17:23

Blimey I don't know if I can hold it together for the summer hols

She is just a nightmare lately, stroppy, defiant, argumentative, know it all, winding up her younger brother all the time, causing arguments with him......argh I have had enough. Has been going on for a couple of months now.

She definately suffers from "end of term-itis" but usually by going down with colds etc.

Is this an age thing? I know its a stage but its horrible!! Tell me I am not alone and how you deal with yours!!!

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Barmymummy · 22/07/2009 17:24

Should say that she is 7 years old next month.....can't see her getting any presents

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bigchris · 22/07/2009 17:24

sounds like my five yr old, you mean it doesnt get any better!!

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squilly · 22/07/2009 17:28

I have one of these in a size 8,or at least it feels ike that on occasion.

She's a sweety most of the time, but OMG...the last couple of weeks someone has definitely run off with her sweet temper and replaced it with these very attributes: stroppiness, argumentativeness (is that a real word or have I fangmangled the English language again?), never being wrong-ness(I know that one's no real)and over-confidence.

Sometimes I despair.

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mrshibbins · 22/07/2009 17:31

sounds like my 8 yr old SD at the moment - totally irritating know it all - just says "yeah i know" all the time like that Andy off Little Britain, or sneers at you and says "don't you even know that?" and if she's been bad and has no tv or nintendo as a result, just shrugs and says "i don't care".

driving me &*%$£ nuts ...

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Barmymummy · 22/07/2009 17:42

feeling loads better! Thanks!!

Forgot to add that she is so damn ungrateful too That makes me sooo angry. Def no presents........!

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MyCatIsGreebo · 22/07/2009 17:56

Jeez.. sounds like my 3.9yr old! Oh SHIT, please don't tell me I've got this for another 3 or 4 yrs! I'll shoot myself!

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Barmymummy · 22/07/2009 18:35

PMSL!!! I thought the same when told 8 year olds were the same!!! I CAN'T STAND another 1/2 years of this!!

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MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours · 22/07/2009 18:43

I was just musing (despairing) on what the hell the teenage yrs will be like!

Too frightening to contemplate!

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joburg · 23/07/2009 09:56

6yo DD gets angry at both of us as soon as we try to correct her. she tells me she can read already (when in fact she cannot put 2 sounds together then she gets frustrated if i try to teach her), she gets angry when i tell her that certain things are for adults only to think about and children should mind their own things, she keeps preaching her father and in such a cheecky way that i get nuts (she doesn't dare to do it with me, 'couse i am the 'teacher' of the house, but takes full revenge on poor DH every time she gets the opportunity) .... what the hell to do?!
i do remeber my grandmother telling me how she educated her 5 children (all alone, my grandfather had died and left her with 5 young kids). in the middle of a crisis, she would take the first kitchen towel available, wet it, and give 'a fair share' on each of the kids' buts! sometimes i wander if all the theory about this positive education and crap is really working ... she was 90 yo when she died, fully conscious and i'm loosing my mind now as a 'still' young chick and DD is only 6 !!!!!!!!!

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Mumcentreplus · 23/07/2009 10:12

They are evil..stroppy, ungrateful and arguementative..you will soon come to terms with this and comfort yourself by thinking of suitable and more and more elaborate ways to punish the annoying little... &

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mrshibbins · 23/07/2009 13:49

"Forgot to add that she is so damn ungrateful too"

not very much money at the moment, but so inventively spead it by buying all the presents on ebay and watching out for bargains ... she had more than I could ever have hoped for at that age, and do you know what she said, on getting to the end of opening them on her birthday morning , with a look of sneering at me and her Dad .... she said "is that IT?" I could gladly have smacked her!

"she keeps preaching her father and in such a cheecky way that i get nuts"

yes, and this too ...

What is it with these girls? I can't remember being this cheeky and rude and demanding and full of myself at that age. But no matter WHAT i do, praise, punish, sit down for long talks ... none of it seems to make any difference at all.

I am DREADING the teenage years... have worked out they will probably coincide nicely with my menopause. Poor OH won't know what's hit him!!!

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mrshibbins · 23/07/2009 13:53

only 5 weeks and 6 days to go .....

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Mumcentreplus · 23/07/2009 14:05
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joburg · 23/07/2009 15:10

feels good reading this thread .... please moms keep on complaining, the worse you complain, the better it makes me feel just joking, but anyway, it's so good to be able to spit it out!
my tiny 'monster' is not gonna get any cartoons tonight, she keeps screaming in her room (right now) just because i told her she should never blame others (in this case it was her teacher!) for her own faults. No cartoons = screaaaaaaming, histerical shouting, baaaaaaad, ruuude attitude!!!!!! well, so be it, what to do

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snice · 23/07/2009 15:13

I had one of these.....

but she is now nearly 8 and almost back to her lovely old)self. Take heart

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joburg · 23/07/2009 16:39

snice, you mean it's getting better? .... when? any year now?! .... mrshibbins, glad to join you in your menopause moments .... DD still screaming and banging doors! please, somebody help!

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Barmymummy · 23/07/2009 18:20

Oh this is great it really is to know I am not alone . I put a status on facebook saying:

"anyone got a vaccine for stroppyknowitallspolitbratarseycow syndrome? Got loads of replies all wetting themselves

She has a been a tiny bit better today but its the unneccessary comments she makes to DS who is just 4 and she knows damn well will piss him off and he will kick off. Things like "J, I am going to a party on Sunday and you are staying at home with mummy....(no reaction so continues with) and I will be having CAKE and SWEETS and a PARTY BAG and YOU WON'T!!" Cue DS throwing mini wobbler becuase he isn't going......so many examples I could be here all day

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Barmymummy · 23/07/2009 18:25

Has just come upstairs looking like Kevin the Teenager saying "I'mmmmm hunnnnnnggggry" (had tea not long ago). I said go and make yourself some cereal then if you like. Cue mini huff and stamp of foot. I said go without then. Says ohhhhkayyyy. I said can you ask your brother if he would like some too and make him some please? Cue "noooooo I'm not making himmmm some!" Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out. Tis a foul stage and this will pass....just as puberty sets in no doubt

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yappybluedog · 23/07/2009 18:29

my dd can be like this too, she is 7 in October

It is the know-it-all attitude that gets to me and the sighing and exasperated look I get when I'm trying to get her to do something

Just think of it as a pre-run for when they are teenagers

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Mumcentreplus · 23/07/2009 18:45

Just checking in to say she's still arsey but she's out with grandma being arsey hence the smile>>

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Meikyo · 24/07/2009 14:22

I can completely recognise my DD here! She will be 7 in December. I have tried explaining how unacceptable her stroppy ungrateful behaviour is but its just "so what, I don't care!" Glad it's not just me going through it. I am a single Mum but she sees her father a lot and he says he gets it too...

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mrshibbins · 24/07/2009 16:28

"so what, I don't care!"

i get this with a smug smirk, to whatever i say, however long she has to spend in her room, or not watch tv, or lose playdate privileges ...

it's the closest i ever come to wanting to smack her

trying so very hard to teach her actions and consequences and to be responsible for the results of her own behaviour, but feel as if I'm not getting very far....

grrrr

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Mumcentreplus · 24/07/2009 16:46

I tell you I have been there before mrsh...the belligerent,dismissive smirky little sod..just keep going

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mrshibbins · 24/07/2009 16:52

gratefully drinks proffered tea thank you mumcentreplus will it help my total sense of humour failure???

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Mumcentreplus · 24/07/2009 17:27

lol sorry no but I found a rubbish joke ...

A married woman is having an affair. Whenever her lover comes over, she puts her nine year old son in the closet. One day the woman hears a car in the driveway and puts her lover in the closet as well.

Inside the closet,the little boy says, "It's dark in here, isn't it?"

"Yes, it is," the man replies.

"You wanna buy a Football?" the little boy asks.

"No thanks," the man replies.

"I think you do want to buy a Football," the little extortionist continues.

"OK. How much?" the man replies after considering the position he's in.

"Twenty-five pounds," the little boy replies.

"TWENTY-FIVE POUNDS?" the man repeats incredulously, but complies to protect his hidden position. The following week, the lover is visiting the woman again when she hears a car in the driveway and, again, places her lover in the closet with her little boy.

"It's dark in here, isn't it?" the boy starts off.

"Yes, it is," replies the man.

"Wanna buy some goal-keepers gloves?" the little boy asks.

"OK. How much?" the hiding lover responds, acknowledging his disadvantage.

"Fifty pounds," the boy replies and the transaction is completed.

The next weekend, the little boy's father says "Hey, son. Go get your ball and glove and we'll play some footie."

"I can't. I sold them," replies the little boy.

"How much did you get for them?" asks the father, expecting to hear the profit in terms of lizards and candy.

"Seventy-five pounds," the little boy says.

"SEVENTY-FIVE POUNDS? That's thievery! I'm taking you to the church right now. You must confess your sin and ask for forgiveness," the father explains as he hauls the child away. At the church, the little boy goes into the confessional, draws the curtain, sits down, and says "It's dark in here, isn't it?"

To which the priest exclaims, "Don't you start that crap in here."

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