This may be long.
My 6 y o dd has always had a very headstrong streak in her, and it has got more so as she has got older. Here is one tiny but sadly everyday example:
I picked her up from Beavers at 7 tonight. Her friends were walking home in one direction and we were going in the other. She knows this; she knows where we live relative to the scout hut. We said goodbye to her friends and left, but she was cross that we couldn't walk home with her friends and started hitting me. I said "That hurts, stop it please" and she replied "That's the point, you deserve it".
This was just one of so many little incidents when she has lashed out and hit either me or ds. When we got home, dh asked me if I were okay (I wasn't; I had gone quiet as I had just had enough of dd) and then asked dd if she had done anything naughty. She told dh that she'd been playing with me and had patted my hand as part of the game and that I had told her off because of it. He said "Oh well, you mustn't hit muumy even in playing" and she went off to bed.
I feel that she behaved appallingly towards me and manipluatively towards dh. If this were an isolatd example I could let it go, but these things are happenig most days. I am geeting headaches and so stressed about her behaviour but don't know how to takle it. I tend to tackle it head-on which makes her resent me more and turns me into the enemy.
She is really harsh towards other children as well and has "fallen out" with most of the children in her class, and treats ds (4 y o) dreadfully sometimes and deliberately upsets him then shows no remorse at all.
I am thinking atht I need help with this, and am thinkking about contacting the school nurse next week. Do you think that is the right person? Do you think a counsellor would help? Anyone else "been there" with their dc?
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My manipulative, aggressive 6 y o dd - how can I help her?
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Clockface · 26/09/2008 20:26
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