Hi all, I have posted before with little success, please read on although long and advice will be gratefully received
My 3 year old son has issues with anger...
to explain.. what is nomal is a feisty stubborn active silly and gregarious nature. He has lots of friends and is a great talker.
His lovely nursery experienced difficulties when he went up to pre school. He is defiant about changing activities, doesnt like the structure as much and is on the naughty chair/ in the middle of incidents alot!
This abiding by the rules is improving and he knows right and wrong and will say sorry etc.
The problem is he experiences extreme bouts of anger/frustration over seemingly quite unrelated things from an advert to the wrong music!! to more typical sharing issues. It is wrse when he is tired and he does have long days at nursery due to my work.
It has been brought to a head by the teacher advising to bring in a early years officer. She does not want to label him any more than me, but says the extent of his anger and the venom in his words ( no swearing!- I want to bite you hit you etc... but litlle actually doing this)is beyond her.
We do not think he has a 'disorder' but his anger is very personal to his character. I was an angry child yet sociable and popular and I do understand the feeling.
There is now a new CAFform to be filled in for any child intervention in all areas. I do not want to have an official report wrtten as I feel this is wrong and could be detrimental. However I am DESPARATE for advice on anger management techniques.
I have been to the doctors and she has referred me (6-8 weeks and form filling ) but recommended private observation to get things going if I wanted answers.
(expensive!!)
I have researched a turtle technique ( canadian) with the aid of a puppet!! to get him to stop, think, go in his shell, count to 3 deep breaths and come out and think of an answer( nwith help) he kind of understands this and can verbalise emotions, but the incidents of so spontaneous he cant pre empt them or act independantly on controlling it.
HE IS ONLY 3, what can I do?, I have to abide the nurserys advice, but I am loathe to label my child. I honestly dont think he is the worst I have seen...BUT I have to deal with this now, otherwise school could be a nightmare.
Techniques, recommendations for help in london, similarities, ANY ADVICE PLEASE?!
PS his father and I have had some problems in the past, we are ok and we are pretty united in the love and support of our child and in dealin with his behaviour, although this can be stressful at times.
Many thanks
Spooly
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anger management in 3 year old -please help ( long)
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spooly · 30/06/2008 13:54
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