Ok,
First time poster and father here. I am looking for some advice or consolation, or even someone to tell me I'm right/wrong.
The story.
Our 4 year old, like many, will lose it. Ignoring all of the build up where we try distraction, caring and so on, it gets to the point where we have to go for a chat. This involves sitting and restraining our son.
What we do.
I sit with him facing me, legs either side and with my arms around his back. I lock my arms and this prevents him running away. He doesn't like it and he loses it even more. He pushes against my arms, but I never actually force him "in", so he can just sit if he wants. (He never does)
Why we do it
He will go ballistic, which he was heading towards anyway. He then gets worked up and will then get past his emotional and physical uncontrollable behaviour. he quietens down and we can talk to him. It always ends with lots of hugs and love and everyone happy.
Why I am worried
This was used early on age 2 -3 and I hoped to end it now. Also it;s a physical restraint and we really want to be in a post physical discipline world. Even writing this out makes me feel like we are doing something awful,
So. does anyone else do something similar..? Anyone think this os really ok, or really not ok? Looking for help.
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Discipline for a 4 year old - worried we're not doing it right!
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user1479678841 · 20/11/2016 22:06
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