Not sure if this is the right board to post this as we think my son has aspergers - currently under going diagnosis. My son is 6.5 and very different and quirky to other boys his age and to my husband he is a total embarrassment. He absolutely adores dancing and dances day and night. He dances more when he is nervous and scared and also when there is an audience, he has no sense of embarrassment or self awareness. On a Friday night my husband usually takes him to pick my daughter up from youth club, and he loves going with him, it is a 15 min drive there and back and it is a bit of dad and son time in the car where my hubby cant get embarrassed until they get to the hall and then he breaks into a routine in front of all the parents and my hubby detests it constantly apologizes for his terrible behavior. The whole dancing in public thing is a huge issue as DH thinks it should be stopped and shouldn't have gone on this far. I do think he feels nervous around his dad as he knows he doesnt like it but he still does it. They dont spend much time together as my DH finds him and his quirks really hard to deal with, so this is prob the only dad and son time they get. Anyway he has told him several times before that he will not tolerate his dancing when he is with him and tonight he broke into routine at youth club again when his dad had said no- so he is misbehaving by not doing as he is told. He knows that I will tolerate it and knows daddy doesn't like it. DH says it should have been stopped a long time but it is the only way he can feel safe so I feel by stopping it - it is going to cause him so much stress and he really lives and breathes dancing that long term it could be really distressing for him. So is it bad behavior and doing any harm or am I being too soft and it needs to be stopped.
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Is son's dancing in public bad behaviour????
peppajay · 06/02/2015 21:36
Your ds sounds great fun peppa
Unfortunately your dh not so much 
Out of curiosity what kind of dancing is your ds doing??
If he's being assessed for Aspergers this is possibly his 'thing', something that he can not control. It's very unfair to try to force him to stop. My nephew loves football (he has Aspergers). He can talk the hind legs off a donkey about football and it would be incredibly unfair and traumatic to take his football away from him. He's not misbehaving at all. Your DH doesn't get him, does he? 
My DS is the same age and dances all the time. He's even been known to dance down the aisle in the supermarket (if the aisle is empty and if he likes the music playing) and sometimes I dance with him
It would be good if your DH could find some other time to spend with DS as really the current arrangement doesn't sound like quality time since your DH is either driving or giving your DS into trouble for dancing. I feel sad for your DS if this is the sum total of his father/son bonding time
Your ds sounds fabulous! 
You sound likeable brilliant mum.
Your DH need to lighten up.
Gosh is your husband from the town in Footloose?
This made me 
. Just last week I Youtubed the Footloose dance routines to show DS. I love the finale dance but DS was much more discerning and preferred the one in the warehouse.
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Is DH from Puritan times? 
You can't and shouldn't stop a child dancing!
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