DH and I are at our wits end trying to work out how to have a peaceful bedtime with DS2 who is 5. At the point of getting into bed for lights out he goes wild - agressive towards us (hitting and pinching), throwing things at us or downstairs, trying to disturb DS1, jumping on furniture.
We have tried a number of ideas to help and they are working up to a point: earlier bathtime and bedtime; using a timer to keep a control of time after his bath; a head and neck massage to calm him down.
Tonight he was particularly dreadful and provocative and wouldn't or couldn't calm down with help or with time out (one of us close by). Time out is not my favoured option but it works. Eventually. There's a lot of toys on top of the cupboards.
I can't get a handle on why he is doing this. I know that he finds school intense, and I make the evenings at home as calm as possible. It hasn't been a school day today and he's had a fab day playing a grand game with DS1 and gone out on his bike - and it's been a horrible time.
We talked with him about bedtime and agreed that one of us would stay nearby upstairs while he goes to sleep. If he is having problems falling asleep and our presence helps him to go to sleep, we are happy to do that to get him through this phase. But it's more than that alone.
It's attention seeking, and we are giving it, albeit as little as possible so that we don't reward the bad behaviour. He is strong-minded and persistent.
Does anyone have any advice, insight or suggestions that have worked for them in a similar situation.
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Bedtmes are awful - I feel like crying (again)
Leo35 · 30/03/2014 20:59
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