2 weeks ago my son went to hit me because i went to take his ipod off him as he was refusing to do anything i asked. this ended up with him storming out and going to his gf house. Then later that night about 9pm i get a knock at the door it was the police come to see if i was ok as my son and gf was at the local station saying i had hit my son. The police officer told me not to worry looks like he just spat his dummy out. But because off the accusation a social worker became involved. The social worker told me my son was going to stay at his gf over the weekend so he could calm down and her mum is happy for this. i agreed this on the understanding he would be home monday. Monday came i spoke with both police and ss and because there was no charge on me my son will be coming home. so ss rang his gf mum and told her to send him home she said no she is keeping him for the for see-able future because he don't want to go home. So a mediation meeting was set up for me and my son to meet this did not go well my son flipped and said his gf mum as said this and that (all lies but he believes her and i am the 1 lying. So the police went to see her and she told them she don't want my son there but her daughter does. so this was reported back to ss. It was then rearranged for me to collect him last night at 6 she told me he had gone out and wont be back till late. she then told ss she is keeping him. I don't like the idea that 2 14 year olds are living together and who are sexually active and all ready have a baby (who lives with me as gf mum wants baby adopted out as she dont want nothing to do with baby she as not told anybody about baby.). I am struggling to understand her she don't want to know baby but wants my son. How do i get him home???
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14 year old wont come home and girlfriends mum encouraging this
worried100 · 05/10/2013 08:57
Yes he is a child and as his mum i have offered him all the support going. He is normally a well mannered person everybody comments on how good and polite he his. His back ground everything as always been ok with him until 18 months ago when his dad came back into his life. It got to the stage if i said no his dad would say yes. then one day my son asked for some money as him and his dad was going somewhere and they wanted me to pay. i said no ask your dad to pay your spending time with him and he don't buy /pay for anything for you. my son agreed and asked him so his dad assaulted him he was reported to the police and since then he there as been no contact. But my sons behavior as been getting worse since then. the gp thinks he his suffering from post traumatic stress. then when i found out is gf was pregnant at 30 weeks i asked him and her what they wanted.they both said they did not want the baby adopted out but had no choice as her mum said it had to be that way. the baby was born 3 weeks later premature. after lots off talking it was it was agreed i have the baby 
. everybody was happy with this choice except gf mum she wants the baby adopted out as nobody in her family knows not even gf dad. baby is now 7 months old and doing really well. but gfs mum still don't agree with baby being with us so she keeps saying things to her daughter and my son and that makes my son argue with me (i have now learnt to let him believe what he wants and not argue back). she is trying her best to get baby took away from us and i think this is why my son went to police as she got in is head.both police and ss have said she is very manipulative
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