my next door neighbour is really going through it with her 2yo and i wonder if any MNers have words of wisdom and experience.
shes a single mum with a useless alcoholic babyfather who left her when she was pregnant. he recently started demanding contact with guilt trips and she accepted as she was desparate for some child care but was inconsistent and unreliable and completely blew it by not even a text on his sons birthday so she is on her own with DS again. she has a history of MH problems and is on the sick. she suffers a lot with stress and anxiety.
im starting to wonder if her DS has some learing difficulty or ADD perhaps. he is not making any real progress towards talking although he understands lots of words he just points at things and goes "errr..errrr" and is miles away from stringing two words together. he is very destructive around the house and rough with pets. no matter how many times he is told something he just ignores it. he gets in the chicken coop and rolls in shit. he has no concept of his own safety, throws himself off things, tries to get into campfires, he constantly goaded my partners very old grumpy dog despite the dog growling and everybody telling him "stay away from that dog he will bite you" eventually the dog got snappy and had to be put down before he really did bite him (it was on the cards anyway), he dosent seem to know or care that his nappy is full...i dont know if this is all just normal. its hard to explain.
he wanders over to ours quite often and i try to entertain him for as long as possible to give his mum a break but after a few minutes he starts trashing the place or pokes and pinches our 4mo and makes him cry and i have to send him back to his mum. you just cannot get through to him, he hears, he understands, he ignores.
i know she is getting to the end of her tether and i really feel for her. he knows how to get a reaction from her and just pushes and pushes. its bringing up loads of childhood stuff for her. her father was violent and abusive and although it sounds horrible sometimes you do just feel like giving her son a smack when he stomps on your foot for the umpteenth time and keeps making the same repetetive whiny noises. i know she feels horibly guilty for even thinking of hitting him and she is really struggling to cope. she has no family nearby and when she looked into getting a childminder one day a week it was prohibitively expensive.
what can we do to help her out? was anybody elses child like this? does it sound like ADHD or just normal terrible twos?
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hazeldog · 23/09/2012 23:56
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