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what do mums think of the use of first born son's middle name for second born son's first name?

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JenJam Thu 29-Oct-09 23:02:52

I'm due on Halloween
Can anyone see why not?
I won't voice my concerns/worries as I don't want to prejudice the responses.
Cheers, Jen

liliputlady Thu 29-Oct-09 23:11:00

Don't see the problem - it can become a family name may be. Good luck!

lovemybabyboy Thu 29-Oct-09 23:12:12

I think its alright if thats what you want. My mums middle name is my auntys first name and my mum is 3 years older than my aunty.
hope this helps.

snice Thu 29-Oct-09 23:13:33

Don't do it - surely you can think of something else? Child 1 will think his name has been @stolen@ and child 2 will think you couldn't be bothered to think up anything original.

BunnyLebowski Thu 29-Oct-09 23:14:11

I would assume you had no imagination tbh.

A family name is brilliant when used for one of your kids (speaking as someone whose only dd has a family name) but I just don't see the point in replicating it.

RubyBooBerry Thu 29-Oct-09 23:23:49

What is the name?

nicnak01 Thu 29-Oct-09 23:24:14

There are so many lovely names out there, I think its a big no no and later in life makes them feel you just could be bother to think of something just for them.
Everyone like to feel like an individual its bad enough getting older bro/sis clothes, toys etc without getting a hand-me down name as well.

Firawla Thu 29-Oct-09 23:25:42

It is a bit unimaginative, unoriginal
Personally I would think of something else as that name has already been "taken" albeit only as a mn

EightiesChick Thu 29-Oct-09 23:29:56

When choosing names for my then unborn DC I always thought separately of first and middle names for this reason - didn't want to use up a potential first name for a future DC on the first one. So I think it's best to leave that name behind and choose totally new names for your new baby. That is, unless there is some strong family connection to it - but if that's not already there, it's just that you like the name, then I'd pick other names you like.

paddy0 Thu 29-Oct-09 23:34:21

I had this same dilemma with my DD2. In the end I chose not to go for it but to this day, I regret my decision. So my advice would be to go for it.

JenJam Thu 29-Oct-09 23:36:13

thanks for responses.

I'd be interested to hear more perspectives

I can think of other names, and we have a '2nd' and '3rd' choice, but in my heart i don't like these alternatives as much as my '1st' choice of name, the middle name of first son

this name is also the middle name of my partner

On and off I've regretted not using this name as the first name for first born - it was a close call between two names with my partner pushing for our chosen name most strongly, and silly me I was sat on the sofa loved up, dreamily breastfeeding and staring out of the window

In retrospect I wish I had the forethought to 'save' my name for another child...but at the time you can't imagine another and there was always the possibility of a daughter following a son....

As we never use our first born's second name, I've been thinking life is too short, I should use the one I like rather than choose another less loved name just to be sufficiently different/original/individual

but I am concerned about some of the things mentioned so far - in particular how DS might feel if I reuse

Also worried I'll "over rationalise" reusing the name, talk myself into an alternative name and regret it again in a few months time.

...oh someone help me please, I can sense that dreamy feeling is just around the corner.

Cheers

DuelingFanjo Thu 29-Oct-09 23:41:01

What Snice said.

MY friend wanted to do this and it was purely because she had given the two names she liked most in the world to her first child and couldn't find another she liked as much for her second.

Everyone advised her against it and so she eventually found another name for her second child.

Luckily her third child was a different sex!

JenJam Thu 29-Oct-09 23:41:02

Lovely lot of messages in between collecting my thoughts thanks

The name I am talking about is Edward

And yes I've thought about Edmund but it's a compromise for me - and my DH is not keen either

My alternatives are George, Samuel and Joe

Melody4 Thu 29-Oct-09 23:45:10

Go for it - I did the same. I have 4 children and called ds1's second name Joseph, same as his dad. Second son had new name, third a girl, 4th son I didn't like any other name other than Joseph. I know there are loads but none that I liked! So number 4 became Joseph and I have not regretted it! Nobody even mentions it. When he's older I'll just say its because I loved it.

paddy0 Thu 29-Oct-09 23:46:46

Edward is a superb name!

I think because it is such a classic name, it somehow doesn't seem odd to reuse it.

I say go for it. Absolutely.

lou33 Thu 29-Oct-09 23:47:03

my sister did the same for her dd's

i dont see why you shouldnt

BunnyLebowski Thu 29-Oct-09 23:49:50

But don't you associate the name Edward intrinsically with your first born son??

I only have one dd whose middle name I could never give another baby as it's now so tied up in her identity and our memories of her 13 months on earth!

I have to say that your other 3 names are really fab particularly Joe (but Joseph known as Joe) and George.

mamas12 Thu 29-Oct-09 23:50:50

My mum did this
Eldest brother is John David Paul
Second David Paul
Third Paul

!!! It's fine, do what you want.

JenJam Thu 29-Oct-09 23:58:25

Yes I do associate Edward with my first born...here today, right now..that's part of the problem for me today

but I also think that once our second boy's character comes out he will redefine the name in his own way

And our first son will always be a Finn to us more than an Edward

My sister recently had a daughter she named olive....which the more conventional in our family made clear they disliked (Olive Oyl) but now we have all met and know our little Olive I can't think of a prettier name for her, the name has become her and vice versa

Interesting discussion - especially as the baby activity is very strong tonight - tonight could be the night - there's alot of movement inside. Is he protesting already? or is 'with me' on this name?

JenJam Fri 30-Oct-09 00:00:45

mamas12

I'd be interested to know what your bros feel about their names?

Any resentment? especially Paul?

DuelingFanjo Fri 30-Oct-09 00:07:01

mamas12,

is it a family name of some kind or did she juse really love the name Paul grin?

Poohbearsmom Fri 30-Oct-09 00:09:18

Edward is a fantastic name... But im a twilight fan so im bias... Id do it if i was u. What age is ur ds1 could u ask him Make it like his gift to the baby?? I hav no second name, neither does my dh and my dh didnt want to give our boys 2nd names either but i regret it a bit now as id like to hav given them their dfil name aswell but hindsight... Of ur alternatives i really like samual... Def a boy ur havin??

momijigari Fri 30-Oct-09 00:14:55

I think you should go with what you feel is right.

I wish we had given our ds his middle name as his first name, but we didn't, he loves his middle name too.

JenJam Fri 30-Oct-09 00:19:34

def a boy

I feel Finn and Sam is not a great combo, Samuel is a great name, but he will become Sammy or Sam and I already have a Finn/Finny.

Joe and Finn works well together in my head, but DH is aetheist/not keen on Joseph and I'm not keen on shortened version for birth cert/grown up Joe - so no solution there yet

I would like a longer name - two syllables this time - and a classic

And that's how we came about George

Which is my brothers preferred name (he is expecting his first in May) but I can't let myself go there otherwise we'll be in no-name land (and I said it first!)

the more I explain myself the more justified Edward is!

Poohbearsmom Fri 30-Oct-09 00:56:28

Do u like Edwin? I think Edwin and Finn go quite nicely together...

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