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Negative comments make me regret daughter’s name.

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evelynsmummy44 Thu 21-Mar-19 11:43:09

I know people are going to say not to worry but it’s something that I think about regularly. My daughter is three and her name is Evelyn. She has never, ever been called Evie (not even once) and her name was picked for sentimental reasons. When we named her I had never been on a site like this and having never met another little Evelyn I didn’t know it was popular (still haven’t met another one in our area!) however I get really sad that it is pretty much always called boring or horrible on this site. I very rarely see anything positive about it and it makes me regret not calling her Eliza. I’m not sure how to learn to love my daughter’s name again (maybe just come off this site? But I love looking at it for inspiration for baby number two) anyone been/felt similar about their child’s name?

WeepingWillowWeepingWino Thu 21-Mar-19 12:00:18

Basically, there's a huge amount of snobbery over names on MN, mainly aimed at popular and so-called American names.

NicksWife08 Thu 21-Mar-19 12:02:07

Evelyn is a really beautiful name, I don't see it as old or really for any age group.
Personally I don't like the name Eliza.

Bigonesmallone3 Thu 21-Mar-19 12:02:14

If you say I'm thinking of naming my child XX everyone will say god no I don't like that blah blah

If you say this is my child I named her XX people will say what a nice name!

Evelyn is a lovely name, it's your daughters name so own it and don't have doubts

OnlyFoolsnMothers Thu 21-Mar-19 12:03:35

See i dont like the name Eliza- doesnt mean its not a lovely name. You will never please everyone and why should you try.
Evelyn is a beautiful name

KingLooieCatz Thu 21-Mar-19 12:04:01

I know an adult Evelyn and she is one of my favourite people, followed her dream career very successfully and with integrity and is well respected by her colleagues.

Stick to your guns.

Littlechocola Thu 21-Mar-19 12:04:46

I think it’s beautiful.
My daughter’s name has been trashed on here many times. She’s 18. It’s her name and it suits her.

GummyGoddess Thu 21-Mar-19 12:05:33

It doesn't matter. If you like it and it isn't outrageous or spelt incorrectly it's fine.

I actually had someone say to my face that dc1 had a horrible name!

RainbowWaffles Thu 21-Mar-19 12:05:47

It’s a lovely name. I wouldn’t worry about what a bunch of strangers say about it on the internet. You may find you consider their individual and collective tastes to be horrific if you saw what they named their children, how they decorated their houses and what they wore. The opinions of others should only really matter if you respect their opinion and it’s impossibe to know if you haven’t met them. Whatever name you choose will be boring, pretentious, try hard, chavvy, American, too common or too obscure depending on who you listen to. I think if you give your child a name that may make someone less inclined to hire them if they see it on a cv then perhaps reconsider, but Evelyn is safe on that one.

bellinisurge Thu 21-Mar-19 12:06:11

Wtf? It's a lovely name. And if it has sentimental meaning for you, so much the better.
And even if it wasn't a lovely name, it's no one's business.

Rachelhaydenberk1 Thu 21-Mar-19 12:06:18

Evelyn is stunning!! Very elegant, classic with modern spin and will grow well with her.

People always dislike every name. I'm naming my daughter Harlow - I'm American and I get it's not a well received British name - but imagine the hell I got!! Doesnt make me love the name any less though.

These name sites are fun but you have to take it with a grain of salt. People are going to have different tastes and make you question yours. But if you love a name, you love a name. Dont let anyone sway you or make you regret your name choice. Evelyn is gorgeous.

It's funny. I notice people on these sites like only very classic names like Elizabeth, Mauve, Mabel, Maude. These names arent my personal taste. I guess you cant argue against names that have been around for centuries. Some people just arent very open-minded or creative IMO. Evelyn isnt even out there or trendy. But it's not an "old lady" name either!! Its definitely not boring.

I feel like you should defend your choice - even if just in your head! You cant taste everyone's tastes to heart.

flameycakes Thu 21-Mar-19 12:08:19

I think it is a beautiful and elegant name xxx

EngagedAgain Thu 21-Mar-19 12:10:54

I like Eliza, yet if I were to have a daughter now, I wouldn't use it as a first name, because whilst it was lovely in its time it's outdated now. But then if one thought ahead, some of these name will have a resurgence, and at say 20 years old, said child could be in favour. Parents have the right to call their children what they like, as everyone will have an opinion. Also if the worst came to the worst they can always change it themselves as an adult.

icannotremember Thu 21-Mar-19 12:11:09

Who gives a shit what a bunch of anonymous people on a forum think? If ds3 was a girl he'd have been Sofia. MN wisdom on Sofia is that it's an absolute no no because it's too popular. I don't care, it was the name we wanted and the name we would have used.

I've posted my ds's names here before (under another username and some time ago) and got the usual bollocks about how giving them Polish names was a mistake as English people will find them hard to spell. I didn't name my dc in order to gain approval from MNers and I don't care what MNers or anyone else thinks of their names. We love their names, they suit the dc perfectly, and everyone else's opinion is just meaningless noise.

Not that it matters at all but I think Evelyn is a lovely name.

(I'm sorry. I think I have PMS. I definitely have Brexitis.)

TatianaLarina Thu 21-Mar-19 12:11:55

It’s pretty name much nicer than Eliza. Believe in yourself and stick to your guns.

nauticant Thu 21-Mar-19 12:12:27

It's a lovely name OP. Don't feel you have to change it.

JemSynergy Thu 21-Mar-19 12:16:39

My children's names have been described as twee on here and I couldn't care less. In the real word their names are always complimented. I love their names and their names are popular for a reason. Evelyn is a very nice name. You won't be able to prevent people or friends from shortening a name. I never shorten my sons name but now he is at secondary school all his friends do. He is used to it now.

amusedbush Thu 21-Mar-19 12:18:39

I think Evelyn is a beautiful name. I really, really like it.

Eliza is horrible, in my opinion blush not a patch on Evelyn!

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou Thu 21-Mar-19 12:20:24

I think Evelyn is a beautiful name. I work in schools so know a lot of children - I've NEVER come across an Evelyn!

Cwenthryth Thu 21-Mar-19 12:20:47

From your thread title I assumed that people in your life were making negative comments personally to you about your daughter’s name - and was all prepared to come on and support you and say how rude they were, ignore the haters etc.

But that’s not what’s happening, is it, what’s happening is some strangers on the internet are discussing names and some of them don’t like the name you chose for your daughter 3/4 years ago. There’s no actual problem here - people are allowed to not like a name for whatever reason, however trivial, and it’s ok for them to express that on an anonymous discussion board online! They’re not being rude or personal, tbh it’s faintly ridiculous that the opinion of strangers on the internet would have influenced how you feel about your own 3yo daughters name, to the point where you feel you have to ‘learn to love’ it again.

My advice is to give your head a wobble, as they say round here - you know and love your daughter, it’s her name, why on earth would you care what people you don’t know think when discussing the name in the abstract. They’re allowed their opinion, and it’s just not relavent to you personally. If this is a serious issue for you, perhaps it might be rooted in issues around boundaries or self esteem, that you’re not confident in your own choice, that could be worth exploring and thinking about/working on.

KurriKurri Thu 21-Mar-19 12:21:12

I often see my DD's name come up on here as 'awful' or 'oldladyish' or some such nonsense. I think it is a beautiful name that is why i chose it - I don't give a monkey's what anyone else thinks.
Evelyn is lovely, ignore anyone else - you may hate their kids names.
Personally I'm not keen on Eliza (just makes me think of Eliza Doolittle) but it's only my opinion.
Also at 3yrs old, I'd say it is too late to change your DD's name - it is part of her identity, and you don't want her to pick up on any doubts you may have and to not like her own name.

mumtobabygilrl Thu 21-Mar-19 12:22:10

I love her name , classic and timeless! You picked well!

GnomeDePlume Thu 21-Mar-19 12:23:10

Remember it isnt just a name, it is her.

I would say the same if her name was Engelwaldbicycleclip (apologies to all those Engelwaldbicycleclips out there).

SooticaTheWitchesCat Thu 21-Mar-19 12:23:39

Evelyn is a lovely name. I prefer it to Eliza (I think of Eliza Doolittle too)

Littlepond Thu 21-Mar-19 12:24:07

My daughters name always gets negative opinions on here (one poster said “ugh, please DO NOT call your child X”) but I love it and more importantly my daughter loves her name! They had a project at school about names and she was excited to write all about the meaning behind her name and read it out to the class.
Ignore the haters OP!

mcjx Thu 21-Mar-19 12:24:13

The name is lovely! Prefer that over Eliza. Don't worry OP ❤️

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