Tom or Tommy?

[Unsureonwhat]

I do not want him to be Thomas, so please don't suggest that - even if you prefer it.

Should we use Tom or Tommy, on the BC? We will call him both, whichever one we put on the BC. However, I prefer Tommy.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Tom

[MitzyLeFrouf]

Tom.

You can depend on a man called Tom.

[daisydalrymple]

Tom

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

Tom. They always seem to be gentlemanly and very handsome.

[AStreetcarNamedBob]

Tom on the BC sounds better.

[LadyAntonella]

Tom is lovely (I prefer it to Thomas). Tommy is a lovely nn but you never know with names like that if your DS might find it babyish as he gets older. Some boys / men wouldn't mind and would pull it off but I imagine some wouldn't like it. I knew an adult Ricky and a Jamie who both loved their names though.

[SuburbanRhonda]

Ok, so you've rejected Thomas but can I ask why? Just it might ne nice for him to have a choice if he hates having a really short name that you can't do anything with.

[SuburbanRhonda]

Tommy is very popular in the travelling community (we have a lot of travellers in our school).

[sonlypuppyfat]

Thomas is a lovely name at least you'll be giving him a choice

[CrowyMcCrowFace]

Could you live with Tomas?

I have a colleague called Jo who gets irritated constantly confirming that she is not Joanna, Joanne or josephine.

Tom is so widely understood to be a diminutive that I suspect he'd spend a boring amount of time correcting assumptions that he is 'officially' Thomas.

[FizzyFeet]

Another vote for Tom on the BC.

[Portobelly]

Tom is a name in its own right, not a shortening of Thomas.
www.thejc.com/judaism/jewish-words/tam
Meaning Whole and Unblemished.

[DramaAlpaca]

Tom.

I know two Toms who are just Tom, not Thomas on their birth certs, and it hasn't done either of them any harm.

[LotsofDots]

Tom. I always wanted a Tom, but it is precluded by surname.

[Portobelly]

We named our son Tom, based on its Hebrew meaning.
biblehub.com/hebrew/8537.htm
Completeness and integrity.

It has a different root to Thomas, which is Greek

[NapQueen]

Tom.

I've a daughter with a shortened version as her full name and only twice in nearly five years has anyone ever called her the potential look her version.

[sonlypuppyfat]

It's my cats name

[EllenDegenerate]

Tom is solid, considered, reliable, impeccably mannered.

Tommy is handsome, rebellious, intelligent, non conformist.

Who do you want your son to be?

[DontKillMyVibe]

Tom

Men drinking Buckfast with their tops off are called Tommy. Well they are near me anyway.

[MitzyLeFrouf]

I had an uncle called Tommy and he was the gentlest, shyest man in the world and teetotal too!

I still prefer Tom though.

[Ellie06]

If you want him to be different to other kids I'd go for Tommy, I'm a teacher and we have loads of Tom's in school, but no Tommys

[skankingpiglet]

Out of those two I'd pick Tom. Tommy doesn't work for me as an adult name, but makes sense as a child's NN which he could carry through to grownup life if he wanted.

[Sophronia]

Tom and you could use Tommy as a nn

[user1463864877]

Tom. Just as the last two posters said Tommy works as a nickname if you fancy then.

[septembersunshine]

Tom. Just that. You could always use the nickname Tommy if you feel like it, as a cute baby/small child thing that may follow him into adulthood if he wants, but just Tom on the bc would be fine imo.