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honeybehappy Sun 08-Nov-09 23:57:13

Im so angry at the woman next door. She has left her little girl crying since 9.30 and she is sobbing her heart out.
She normally does this when she has a man round and when she doesnt she stomps up the stairs screaming at her to shut up and go to sleep.

Its really pissing me off because i am sitting in my front room and can hear her crying and she and her latest bloke are outside in the back garden smoking weed and he is telling her to turn the tv up so he cant hear the kid screaming.

They are disturbing my dd's and i cant go to bed because i can hear her dd in my bedroom and it will wind me up that she is not being comforted.

Im all for controlled crying and that but the dd is 2 and she is begging her mum for a cuddle.

So AIBU to wish the walls were thicker meaning i would be a less nosy neighbour?grin

Her poor dd though sad

LaurieScaryCake Mon 09-Nov-09 00:00:09

The kid has been crying for 2 and a half hours shock

i don't care about your walls (sorry) but I do think you should think about involving SS anonymously.

FanofFireworks Mon 09-Nov-09 00:01:57

I don't think you need thicker walls, I think you need Childline or social services.

Do something.

No-one else cares for this kid. It's your duty as a human being to help her.

unavailable Mon 09-Nov-09 00:02:40

Sorry to hear you are being inconvenienced by a distaught child who is neglected and abused.

FanofFireworks Mon 09-Nov-09 00:03:13

0800 11 11 now.

help the poor child... she doesn't deserve to be ignored

honeybehappy Mon 09-Nov-09 00:04:37

Yes it's sad isnt it. I wouldnt phone SS because i dont here her smacking her or shouting at any other time it's only bed time which is like this.

FanofFireworks Mon 09-Nov-09 00:05:36

oh, that's ok then

for goodness sake.... DO SOMETHING

it doesn't have to be all day, every day for it to be neglect and/or abuse.

0800 11 11

QandA Mon 09-Nov-09 00:05:46

How often does this happen?

Do you have any other concerns? (about the child, not yourself)

How would you feel if it was your DD on the other side of that wall?

honeybehappy Mon 09-Nov-09 00:07:14

unavailable i think that was a little uncalled for, i was just having a vent and i'm sure if i had posted to say i was going round there or calling ss or the police you would have all jumped saying keep out of it it's just the dd being naughty at bedtime

unavailable Mon 09-Nov-09 00:07:44

Ok - clearly this is a wind up. What satisfaction do you get? I'm off.

honeybehappy Mon 09-Nov-09 00:08:36

probably about 3 times a week but they are not always here sometimes they come in whilst we are in bed. No other concerns Qand A.

FanofFireworks Mon 09-Nov-09 00:09:44

and I'll say it again... 0800 11 11

why are you ignoring perfectly good advice? I'm getting severely pissed off with people starting threads about abused kids and then claiming inability to change the situation angry

honeybehappy Mon 09-Nov-09 00:09:52

why the fuck is it a wind up? i was just moaning about the lazy bitch next door because she would rather be with her bloke than putting her dd to bed.

LuckySalem Mon 09-Nov-09 00:10:20

We wouldnt have told you not to call police or SS as this is precisely the reason you should be.

honeybehappy Mon 09-Nov-09 00:11:01

and say what fan that the little girl next door doesnt want to go to bed and cries because her mum doesnt go to her?

FanofFireworks Mon 09-Nov-09 00:13:10

Say that the little girl next door has been

"crying since 9.30 and she is sobbing her heart out"

and that her mum

"normally does this when she has a man round and when she doesnt she stomps up the stairs screaming at her to shut up and go to sleep"

and then tell them that

"i am sitting in my front room and can hear her crying and she and her latest bloke are outside in the back garden smoking weed and he is telling her to turn the tv up so he cant hear the kid screaming"

Then finally, tell them the address so they can progress with an investigation

FanofFireworks Mon 09-Nov-09 00:14:24

oh I forgot you need to mention that

"the dd is 2 and she is begging her mum for a cuddle"

LuckySalem Mon 09-Nov-09 00:14:45

Fully agree with FAN

honeybehappy Mon 09-Nov-09 00:15:59

well when you put it like that i obviously have to do something dont i? I just didnt know if i am overreacting because once we put dd's to bed they mostly stay there so we dont have to deal with this kind of thing well not yet any way.

FanofFireworks Mon 09-Nov-09 00:17:14

well yes, you do have to do something - ring them now, they'll be there

0800 11 11

LuckySalem Mon 09-Nov-09 00:17:23

no - this is totally different. This is in no way sleep training. Ring them and ring them now.

honeybehappy Mon 09-Nov-09 00:17:56

yes im going to do it right now.

redsofas Mon 09-Nov-09 00:22:12

do you live in havant? sounds alot like a bitch woman i used to be friends with but not anymore. Yes make that phone call i agree with fan too.

mamadiva Mon 09-Nov-09 00:25:22

I can understand your concerns about ovr reacting Honey, only you know how bad things are BUT remember that a child does not need to be hit to be abused neglect is worse as it gets the child in more ways than one physically, emotionally and mentally!

Well done for doing something about it

GypsyMoth Mon 09-Nov-09 00:25:50

God, I know someone like this too. Her dd are older, so know to keepout of theway when a new man is around. It's sickening!

Think op needed to know it would be taken seriously. Sometimes we genuinely don't know what to do for the best. Like on my thread, which nobody is on!!!

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