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AIBU?

To complain to the housing association and demand thicker walls.

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honeybehappy · 08/11/2009 23:57

Im so angry at the woman next door. She has left her little girl crying since 9.30 and she is sobbing her heart out.
She normally does this when she has a man round and when she doesnt she stomps up the stairs screaming at her to shut up and go to sleep.

Its really pissing me off because i am sitting in my front room and can hear her crying and she and her latest bloke are outside in the back garden smoking weed and he is telling her to turn the tv up so he cant hear the kid screaming.

They are disturbing my dd's and i cant go to bed because i can hear her dd in my bedroom and it will wind me up that she is not being comforted.

Im all for controlled crying and that but the dd is 2 and she is begging her mum for a cuddle.

So AIBU to wish the walls were thicker meaning i would be a less nosy neighbour?

Her poor dd though

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LaurieScaryCake · 09/11/2009 00:00

The kid has been crying for 2 and a half hours

i don't care about your walls (sorry) but I do think you should think about involving SS anonymously.

FanofFireworks · 09/11/2009 00:01

I don't think you need thicker walls, I think you need Childline or social services.

Do something.

No-one else cares for this kid. It's your duty as a human being to help her.

unavailable · 09/11/2009 00:02

Sorry to hear you are being inconvenienced by a distaught child who is neglected and abused.

FanofFireworks · 09/11/2009 00:03

0800 11 11 now.

help the poor child... she doesn't deserve to be ignored

honeybehappy · 09/11/2009 00:04

Yes it's sad isnt it. I wouldnt phone SS because i dont here her smacking her or shouting at any other time it's only bed time which is like this.

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FanofFireworks · 09/11/2009 00:05

oh, that's ok then

for goodness sake.... DO SOMETHING

it doesn't have to be all day, every day for it to be neglect and/or abuse.

0800 11 11

QandA · 09/11/2009 00:05

How often does this happen?

Do you have any other concerns? (about the child, not yourself)

How would you feel if it was your DD on the other side of that wall?

honeybehappy · 09/11/2009 00:07

unavailable i think that was a little uncalled for, i was just having a vent and i'm sure if i had posted to say i was going round there or calling ss or the police you would have all jumped saying keep out of it it's just the dd being naughty at bedtime

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unavailable · 09/11/2009 00:07

Ok - clearly this is a wind up. What satisfaction do you get? I'm off.

honeybehappy · 09/11/2009 00:08

probably about 3 times a week but they are not always here sometimes they come in whilst we are in bed. No other concerns Qand A.

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FanofFireworks · 09/11/2009 00:09

and I'll say it again... 0800 11 11

why are you ignoring perfectly good advice? I'm getting severely pissed off with people starting threads about abused kids and then claiming inability to change the situation

honeybehappy · 09/11/2009 00:09

why the fuck is it a wind up? i was just moaning about the lazy bitch next door because she would rather be with her bloke than putting her dd to bed.

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LuckySalem · 09/11/2009 00:10

We wouldnt have told you not to call police or SS as this is precisely the reason you should be.

honeybehappy · 09/11/2009 00:11

and say what fan that the little girl next door doesnt want to go to bed and cries because her mum doesnt go to her?

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FanofFireworks · 09/11/2009 00:13

Say that the little girl next door has been

"crying since 9.30 and she is sobbing her heart out"

and that her mum

"normally does this when she has a man round and when she doesnt she stomps up the stairs screaming at her to shut up and go to sleep"

and then tell them that

"i am sitting in my front room and can hear her crying and she and her latest bloke are outside in the back garden smoking weed and he is telling her to turn the tv up so he cant hear the kid screaming"

Then finally, tell them the address so they can progress with an investigation

FanofFireworks · 09/11/2009 00:14

oh I forgot you need to mention that

"the dd is 2 and she is begging her mum for a cuddle"

LuckySalem · 09/11/2009 00:14

Fully agree with FAN

honeybehappy · 09/11/2009 00:15

well when you put it like that i obviously have to do something dont i? I just didnt know if i am overreacting because once we put dd's to bed they mostly stay there so we dont have to deal with this kind of thing well not yet any way.

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FanofFireworks · 09/11/2009 00:17

well yes, you do have to do something - ring them now, they'll be there

0800 11 11

LuckySalem · 09/11/2009 00:17

no - this is totally different. This is in no way sleep training. Ring them and ring them now.

honeybehappy · 09/11/2009 00:17

yes im going to do it right now.

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redsofas · 09/11/2009 00:22

do you live in havant? sounds alot like a bitch woman i used to be friends with but not anymore. Yes make that phone call i agree with fan too.

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mamadiva · 09/11/2009 00:25

I can understand your concerns about ovr reacting Honey, only you know how bad things are BUT remember that a child does not need to be hit to be abused neglect is worse as it gets the child in more ways than one physically, emotionally and mentally!

Well done for doing something about it

GypsyMoth · 09/11/2009 00:25

God, I know someone like this too. Her dd are older, so know to keepout of theway when a new man is around. It's sickening!

Think op needed to know it would be taken seriously. Sometimes we genuinely don't know what to do for the best. Like on my thread, which nobody is on!!!

FanofFireworks · 09/11/2009 00:27

Well done honey... hope they help the girl soon

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