Ok long story but i will try and cut it short. My dad is a control freak, as kids we got hidings for virtually nothing, as did mum. Anyway she stayed with him and over the last 15 years (am 31 now) my relationship with him is strained (when it suits him) i suppose cos he knows i remember things he did. That said i have always done everything to help him to the point that currently he owes me over 3.5k and has done for over 18months. He cant pay me back at the min so i dont hassle him, all i have ever asked of him is that he or mum does the evening school run for me for my daughter. Neither of them work and the school is 100 yards away, so this is agreed, however every chance he gets he throws it back at me that he LETS mum do this. He also begrudges me going out with friends or having any sort of social life and brands me a bad mum if i have a drink once a month,(as a single mum of 2 struggling to make ends meet most months after paying all the bills and mortgage on my own, working full time and doing a degree i think once in a while i am entitled to a night off). However today i was meeting with my new employers at work as we are going through a transfer. DD aged 6 was poorly so couldnt go school, so as i have done in the past and as agreed with mum, i went round to drop her there after i had taken DS to nursery, so i could go work, only for arsewipe to 'put his foot down' and refuse to look after her saying that his relaxation time is more important than my job, he told mum to 'shut it' and grabbed my arm and frogmarched me out. DD was crying and then she ended up throwing up in the car as she was in a state. So now he is sat on his arse doing nothing, has taken mums mobile off her so she cannot ring or text me and i am in shit with work and probably getting frowned upon by new employers. I know he has done this on purpose just cos he knows its an important day, thats just the kind of person he is. When i recently passed my first year of a degree course that i have been studying at home mum congratulated me, he said 'oh its only a bit of reading she will drop out yet, she should be concentrating on her kids'. I have never done anything to this man apart from try to help him out even if i have to go without. My brothers do nothing for him yet they are perfect. Am i being unreasonable to think he is being a complete tosser with me????
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Jodyray · 20/10/2009 12:26
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