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to think that supermarket etiquette works like this

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franklymydear Sat 26-Sep-09 13:04:02

in a busy supermarket like Sainsburys on a saturday, you finish shopping and join a horribly long queue.

Suddenly you remember something which happens to be in the next aisle along, so you leave your trolley in the queue and dash to get said item.

When you come back you expect your trolley to be in the same place and not to have been moved to the side and an old bloke with a basket in front of you starting to unload his basket.

Shopping etiquette says you wait your turn right even if the owner of the trolley in front is not there for a couple of minutes.

cornsilk Sat 26-Sep-09 13:04:57

cheeky old fecker! Did you say anything?

ilove Sat 26-Sep-09 13:05:02


I'd have shifted your trolley as well

dogonpoints Sat 26-Sep-09 13:08:08

Depends. If the assistant was ready to start with the next customer, he was right to go ahead.

If the assistant was still busy with a customer, he was a cheeky get. And so would you be, love

franklymydear Sat 26-Sep-09 13:08:28

Would you ilove - how ill-mannered of you.

I said "Oh" quite pointedly and he said "oh I didn't see you, anyway I don't have much" - he had about the same as me.

I left it but had an internal dialogue about Karma and etiquette and basic good manners and choosing to make the world nicer or nastier rather than thinking of your own convenience - which luckily I didn't start on because in my pmt state it would have escalated - oh yes indeed it would have

and then I gave the bloke behind me my nectar points and was nice to till woman so my karma is intact

ruddynorah Sat 26-Sep-09 13:08:50

did you tell the bloke where you were going? he may have assumed you had the runs and would be some time.

franklymydear Sat 26-Sep-09 13:09:34

dogonpoints there was about 10cm of free conveyor belt space at the end of it behind the lady in front who had only just finished unloading - he could barely fit a separator on it and he hadn't started unloading when I reappeared from the next aisle with my Alpen

dogonpoints Sat 26-Sep-09 13:10:34

He was Very Rude, then. I'd have been most cross

franklymydear Sat 26-Sep-09 13:10:44

ruddynorah he wasn't behind me when I left to get the cereal - he was probably walking up the line looking for the smallest queue - but my trolley was immediately behind the lady in fronts and over the till entrance

cornsilk Sat 26-Sep-09 13:11:19

He was being rude.

diddl Sat 26-Sep-09 13:11:46

When I was in UK, I never came across this.

If I forgot something I would take my trolley with, or move it to the side out of the way.

If I left my trolley, in a queue I wouldn´t expect someone else to move it on!

Here in Germany if you forget something you ask the person behind, you don´t *expect it*.

It´s also usual here to let a person with a couple of items in their arms to go before you.

I think YABU to epect this,and to think that ther is even such a thing as "supermarket etiquette"

franklymydear Sat 26-Sep-09 13:12:02

I am liking the capitalisation Dogonpoints he was in fact Very Rude - and I might even add an exclamation point - Very Rude Indeed!


franklymydear Sat 26-Sep-09 13:12:50

diddl you're wrong

purepurple Sat 26-Sep-09 13:17:18

Is your time more important than mine?
Why should I have to wait for you to come back with your forgotten item? Are you the Queen or something?
I like that man's style!

diddl Sat 26-Sep-09 13:17:36

Wrong about what, fmd?

Firawla Sat 26-Sep-09 13:18:14

yabu if you left the queue and they are ready for the next person do you expect them just to wait?

TrillianAstra Sat 26-Sep-09 13:19:13

YANBU. You weren't delaying anyone by your behaviour because the person in front was still putting their shopping through. Although I would have said to the person behind 'I'm just going ot run and get something'.

diddl Sat 26-Sep-09 13:19:23

I think it depends on where you are in the queue?

If I was next inline, I´m not sure that I would stand like a twit behind a trolley when I could be putting my stuff on!!

dogonpoints Sat 26-Sep-09 13:19:35

No o ne was taking away the old man's time, purple.

dogonpoints Sat 26-Sep-09 13:20:09

I never stand like a twit, diddl, and I'm not rude either

franklymydear Sat 26-Sep-09 13:20:30

you said there's no supermarket etiquette and I htink you're wrong

cornsilk Sat 26-Sep-09 13:21:47

This is why I shop online.

franklymydear Sat 26-Sep-09 13:23:40

They were not ready for the next person - there was about 10cm of conveyor space behind the person's being served shopping that had opened up whilst I had been gone.

There was nobody behind me to ask when I nipped off so I left my trolley across the end of conveyor belt as you do

Tortington Sat 26-Sep-09 13:26:39

what would be rude is if - you did half your shopping - put your trolley in the queue and then came back with a basket full of more stuff

that would be rude

but having stood in a long queue for 10 mins then remember that you need tampons - its not the end of the world - or indeed taking up anyones time past say ONE minute if they dash off and pick up a box -

what pisses me off is old ladies paying the exact money "just a minute i have a 2p somewhere....ooh a penny....there you are....i KNOW i have another penny................................
.................................. there it is dear"

serenity Sat 26-Sep-09 13:27:34

I wouldn't do what he did, but I get very irritated by people who vanish and leave their shopping behind without saying a word. Particularly hated it when I worked on the checkouts, and had to wait for people to finish their shopping and wander back, thus making me and everyone else in the queue wait (which isn't what you did I know, but speaking generally). The odd times I have had to do it, I always check if people mind first, and leg it as fast as possible...

I'll fully admit though that I am over sensitive to it because of the cheeky gets who do use it as a method to 'save their place' in the queue, when they damn well know they still have shopping to do...

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