Possibly strange question on MN... and also am aware I might not be thinking 100% rationally about this but... anyway - talk sense into me...
I got married last year - and all I am ever being asked by people is if I am planning on having children and when!!!! In the last two days I have been asked 3 times... and I am not exaggerating when i say it get asked at least once a week by someone - regardless of how well I know them.
Apparently this is an acceptable question?! But what answer are people expecting? Do people often discuss plans for a family in detail with anyone and everyone? How do people know that they are not putting their foot in it massively when they ask this?!
I have totally had enough of saying 'oh maybe one day - but I've got lots else to think about for now...'
I am aware that this is particularly sensitive for me ask I had an MC on Easter Sunday and have been ttc ever since... (hence presence on MN with all the lovely people on here that support me through everything) But - from my own personal experience these are all of the reasons I couldn't answer truthfully:
- Before the mc we were ttc but didn't want to share with people in case there were problems (and didn't want people to keep asking)
- I was only just pregnant - so couldn't answer in case anything went wrong
- I'd just had an MC and really didn't want to shre that..
- I am still ttc and it's not happening yet and I am miserable so stop bloody asking...
in the future I guess the answer could also be - we can't have children....
So AIBU to be so sensitive? Is it actually an ok question to ask? Would any of you be happy to answer it before you had children?
Is such a personal question - surely people should never ask?? They will be told if someone wants them to know?
Sorry - have just been asked again and think it has sent me over the edge...