I have just sent this text to a friend I have been friends with for 15
years, we go through stages of being closer than other times but generally we have always been there for each other. I asked her to be my bridesmaid because I couldn't imagine getting married and her not being a big part of my day, the getting ready together, hen do, choosing dresses etc
In the past 17months there have been numerous times I have asked her to come to something wedding related (looking for dresses or shoes or make up trial for us all) and she has declined because of other plans (fair enough at times I understand)
there have been times it's been crucial for her to be there like when they ordered their bridesmaid dresses and she has come with us but has been a bit awkward about it like it's really inconvienient even when I've given plenty of notice.
At one point I gave her the chance to not be my bridesmaid, said I really wouldn't mind if she was too busy or didn't want to. She insisted she did want to.
Now she hardly answers her phone, doesn't text me back yet if I happen to pop round she's back to how she normally is and we can spend hours chatting.
I'm upset because I text her and she doesn't reply, with 5 weeks to go I've got enough on without having to keep trying her phone etc
Today I text her to say her dress would be ready in a couple of weeks and I'm so excited etc she hasn't replied.
We're supposed to be going shopping for shoes and jewellery tomorrow and she hasn't rung me to find out what time we're going or whose picking her up etc.
AIBU to think this is rude and not the actions of a supposed best friend of 15years?
So I have sent her this text
XX will pick you up at xxam tomorrow for shopping. Also I'm a bit upset because I'm getting a bit stressed about everything and you are my bridesmaid yet you never call me, it's always me calling you. I'm also upset because I'm trying to get stuff organised and you give the impression our wedding doesnt matter to you. Maybe I'm being OTT but I thought you were one of my closest friends but at the moment it really doesn't feel like it.
Yes I've got PMT but still she's being rude surely?
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LoveMyGirls · 08/08/2009 20:24
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