My mother came over today to help me sort through the children's toys etc. My daughter got over tired, due to no nap today and started to shout at me in a tired hissy toddler fit. Which I ignored and distracted her to another activity, which worked to quieten her down.
My mother told me that if I do not discipline my DD that she will turn out to be a bad teenager and that will be my fault. That a daughter should never shout at her mother.
It sounds so petty but this really was the straw which broke the camels back. I really feel like selling up and moving away, so I would see much less of my mother. I have had enough of the comments and if I stand up for myself, it would I upset my mother and my dad is upset that I caused problems.
Just today she criticised the housework (fair enough I don't do enough I prefer to play with the children), my parenting skills (I do things differently than she would), breastfeeding the baby, co sleeping etc
Ironically lastly she criticised the fact that I was upset about her comments, she told me "don't get huffy" I can cope with that stuff but starting on my daughter is just too much.
Strangers have often commented on how secure, friendly and polite my daughter is normally. Surely the strangers would remain quiet if my daughter was the overindulged brat my mother thinks she is/will be.
Surely I can communicate with my daughter and use non-physical discipline without destroying her self esteem. I want her to have more confidence than I do, to feel valued and have an impact on her life in little ways.
So my question is, am I being over sensitive being very upset by the criticism that my darling little girl will grow up to be a thug, due to my bad parenting skills. Do your children ever shout at you and what would you do if it happens.
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CanNotThinkOfANewName · 07/07/2009 20:54
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