I was cooking and my in-laws were holding my DS. I had measured out some frozen peas, and looked up to find them putting one in DS's mouth. I freaked out a bit, as I would think this would be a big choking hazard. They said it was fine and safe etc. DS eventually spat out the pea.
Am I being over protective (had just completed a baby first aid course, so I had a heightened awareness of danger) or are they being unreasonable? And how am I supposed to trust them to babysit if they do things like that?
I left ds2 with a mate for an hour - she told me proudly that she gave him a yoghurt and fished out EVERY PIECE OF FRUIT in case he choked. Since ds2' favourite snack at the time was a chicken leg, I had to laugh...
Yes it's my first baby and I think I probably am overprotective, but I'm trying to get better! Hard to hold myself back sometimes, but I did manage to stay on the sidelines as they tried to balance DS on a chair (with his hands on the back) and then let go and stood back to watch the results. I think that's progress!
They haven't actually wanted or offered to babysit yet, but they do live quite far away. I think this is the problem, he's never been looked after by anyone apart from DH for a couple of hours at a time.
Porcupine I have done a similar first aid course and to (hopefully) put your mind at rest the reason the "choking hazards" used on the dolls/dummies are the size of a frozen pea is because that is the size of the dollies' throats. The sizing doesn't correspond to the size of a real baby's throat. As others have said it is slightly larger objects that cause a choking hazard for real babies.
Porcupine, I took at least a couple more dcs to back off from being totally in control. My mantra was that I was their protector and voice until they had their own. I can't see it's a very big deal and I think it's difficult to bury such intense feelings to protect, he's only nine months. You're probably more annoyed that they didn't think about any risk rather than the risk they took??
That's very true posie, because they don't see DS much they always seem to want to 'experiment' to see what he can do this time...
I really try to hold back. I wouldn't ever feed DS processed supermarket cake for example, but I didn't say anything when FIL fed him an entire slice, while in my head I was panicking 'salt!' 'sugar!' 'E numbers!'
Yes there is no doubt I'm hopelessly over-protective