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AIBU?

to think that a primary school shouldn't organise evening performances in the middle of the week that go until until 7.30pm?

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morningpaper · 18/09/2008 16:55

to think that a primary school shouldn't organise evening performances in the middle of the week that go until until 7.30pm?

DD is ASLEEP by 7 every night and any later and she is hysterical (she is in Year 1). We pay for late nights for DAYS (it feels).

Surely all children are being picked up at 3.15 so why can't things for them be held at 4 pm, 5 pm etc?

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LadyMuck · 18/09/2008 16:57

Isn't it for the benefit of working parents though? Agree it is a pain. When our school does this it is on a Friday usually, and at the end of term.

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Flier · 18/09/2008 16:57

i agree, or on a friday night worst case scenario.

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morningpaper · 18/09/2008 16:59

GROAN well next week there's a "Magic Show" performance on a Tuesday night

She was HYSTERICAL today when I suggested it might be a bit late

She is basically EXHAUSTED after school, keeping her up really late on a school night is hellish for all of us

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CountessDracula · 18/09/2008 17:00

Well with a Y1 child who is rarely asleep before 9, it doesn't bother me.

I can see your point though.

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CountessDracula · 18/09/2008 17:00

I am very

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Flier · 18/09/2008 17:00

MP - do you have to go? If she knows how tired she gets, then I wouldn't bother going and write to the head to tell her why.

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CountessDracula · 18/09/2008 17:01

Could she have a nap when she gets home then go out

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morningpaper · 18/09/2008 17:01

haha bad luck

She eats really badly which I suspect is part of the reason she is tired a lot

Have you tried not feeding yours?

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morningpaper · 18/09/2008 17:03

She isn't really conducive to napping because her toddler sister is bouncing off the walls all day

She doesn't HAVE to go but you know what they are like, she is DESPERATE to be included in everything her friends are going to

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Flier · 18/09/2008 17:04

could you tell her that she can only go if she eats all her dinner that night?

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loobeylou · 18/09/2008 17:05

our school is the opposite, apart from the 2 main productions all the mini concerts from drams club, choir etc at the end of terms run straight after school, as do almost all the parents evenings. We are lucky, DHs job allows him to work round these things otherwise it would be a pain.

But I do think YANBU - this early in the term its getting things off to a bad start, its already a long and full term with lots of colds etc about, give the kids a chance

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loobeylou · 18/09/2008 17:06

drams club??

I mean DRAMA club of course

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nametaken · 18/09/2008 17:08

would taking her in an hour later the following day help?

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morningpaper · 18/09/2008 17:09

no she is normally woken like the rest of us by her sister telling us all to get up at 7am

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Mumwhensdinnerready · 18/09/2008 17:46

No YANBU.I had the same problem and refused to take my son in for the evening performance. None of the other parents seemed to mind their 5 year olds being up until 7 or 8pm on a school night.
However the staff were fine about it.

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Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 18/09/2008 18:09

We get earache from the WOHP if we put ours on early.

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islandofsodor · 18/09/2008 18:18

YABU. All the performances at dd's and ds's school have 1 afternoon performance and one evening performance to cater for working parents. Even the recption kids manage fine with the later night.

I have chaperoned primary children in preofessional/amateur theatres who have been onstage until 10pm.

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roisin · 18/09/2008 18:20

My boys were like this MP, especially ds2. He's 9 now and still needs his sleep and we pay for a long time afterwards if he has a late night.

Fortunately our school very rarely had anything in the evenings for KS1 children: shows and performances were done in the afternoons.

Many of my friends have children who could easily cope with late nights at a very young age, and it is a bit frustrating knowing they just don't understand/appreciate it. But I've known what's best for dss, and when they were little the top priority was a good night's sleep.

When they were in yr1 they got home about 3.50, had tea at 4.30, then a bath and reading, and were in bed asleep by 6 pm!

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nailpolish · 18/09/2008 18:21

i think 730 is ok personally

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palaver · 18/09/2008 18:21

6pm



oh that my kids would go to bead earlier than 8.30pm

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ShyBaby · 18/09/2008 18:21

It is better for me if anything like that is held a little later. I've had to have a LOT of time off work this year due to having both kids starting a new school. So many bits and bobs ive had to attend...id have had no holiday left if it was all in working hours. (Which means no holiday when the kids are off) I dont have a partner, have an ex who is unwilling to help out with any of it so my mum has taken days off work to help us out.

I dont like having to make the choice..attend their plays, blah blah...have some time with them when they arent at school..so later is good for me!

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GobbledigookisThrifty · 18/09/2008 18:22

Our school doesn't have anything for infants that goes on so late.

I think late juniors have music performances and shows that are evening but nothing in KS1.

My children would be fine but lots wouldn't.

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morningpaper · 18/09/2008 18:43

But this is a show PURELY for the kids - not the kids performing. So why do parents have to attend? Surely whoever is looking after the kids from 3.15-7 can attend?

I'm afraid we've told her that it's too late so she can't go, she is a bit gutted but not as hysterical as I thought

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Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 18/09/2008 18:45

Ah! - In that case YANBU.

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