Dh's niece is getting married in America this Christmas.
All 4 of us have been invited, but money is tight, neither mine nor dh's jobs are very secure, and we can't all afford to go.
SIL (mother of the bride and dh's older sister) offered to help towards DH's flight so that he could go alone.
I wasn't thrilled about the idea, but told him if he really wanted to go, then he should.
Dc and I had a weekend away together a few weeks ago when he was working - and he missed us like mad..made him realise he'd find it hard being a long way away from us at what is a family time of year.
So, when we were all at her house, he told SIL thanks for the offer, he'd considered it carefully, but he didn't feel he could be away from us for the wedding, and we couldn't all afford to go.
SIL harumphed, turned her back and said in a very cantankerous tone "oh well, it's up to you" (hard to get across her tone here, but it was quite nasty).
I bit my lip, couldn't be bothered to say anything, but was at her reaction.
Dh pretended not to notice, but both dc remarked on it later (without either me or dh referring to it at all). Dc1 said "Aunty x was a bit off with you daddy" - they'd been facing her and said they saw her turn away quite angrily and flounce into the kitchen(I had had my back to her and heard enough from her voice).
Dh maintains she'd been very understanding in all the discussions he'd had with her previously..not sure I believe that, I think she'd been trying to pressurise him and blames me for him not going...which isn't the case.
There...feel better now that rant is over...not worth having a row with her about, but wanted to get it off my chest.
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To think SIL could be a tad more gracious?
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crimbo2008 · 15/09/2008 20:36
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