AIBU at being annoyed at having to spend Christmas with my sister's knuckle- dragging boyfriend.

[Curerofsouls]

Im just having whinge and wanting your light hearted suggestions for how to get through Christmas be as creative as you like.
My sister lives abroad and I haven't seen her for a few months we get on better now we are older. Her boyfriend is an idiot sexist gaming bore.....anyway they have decided they will be coming for Christmas this year which means Christmas day at mine. I was looking forward to a family Christmas without him there but he is coming and I hate him. We finally found a house bugger than our tiny terraced that will beblarge enough and he ruins it by just being there.
Do I get so pissed that I won't be able to stand up any suggestions gratefully recieved as funny as you like I need a laugh.

[ALongHardWinter]

Love the typo! 😂

[travailtotravel]

Hadn't you already decided to have lunch at a local restaurant, perhaps.....

[Theunamedcat]

Spike his pigs in blankets with senna?

Buy him a mani pedi for men gift?

Buy him a man bag? Or an "im a man" bag

[MardyBoudoir]

Put him on washing up duty.

[Brollywasntneededafterall]

Tell dsis to pack his gaming stuff. Borrow a spare tv for the spare room and shove him in there....
Job done...

[mbosnz]

I'm afraid I've got a BIL that my face is like a slapped arse the whole time I'm around him. I cannot stand him. I hate him. He literally makes my skin crawl. I am now beyond trying to hide how I feel. . . on the plus side, we've had him for a lot less Christmases!

I don't put up with the racist bullshit. The sexist bull shit. The homophobic bullshit. I call it out as loud and proud as he tells it. It makes for a very awkward, but apparently very entertaining (to some) Christmas. . .

[mbosnz]

I forgot to mention the sleezy bullshit. . .

[JasonMomoasgirlfriend]

I'd just call out every comment as it is.

"That's sexist" "that's mysogynistic" "that's racist, wow DS I dont know why you're with him if he thinks X,y,z"

:D

[Durbeyfield]

Drink heavily from quite early on in the day.

[godmum56]

treat him like someone else's unpleasant toddler

[Curerofsouls]

@ALongHardWinter

[WomanStanleyWoman]

Do I get so pissed that I won't be able to stand up

Sounds good to me. There’s still three months until Christmas - hopefully you’ll get lucky and your sister will have dumped him before then.

[GeorgiaGirl52]

Seat him at the children's table.

[Aquamarine1029]

I wouldn't allow him in my house, sister or no sister. I simply won't tolerate horrible people in my "old age", especially in my own home.

[Ylvamoon]

I guess he is staying overnight? Spike his breakfast coffee and enjoy Christmas day! 😉

[NiceGerbil]

Do others in your family feel like this?

If so and you are open/ blunt with each other just say to the ones who agree with you. That when he says something offensive etc. That you all just look at him silently and unsmilingly for a sec. And then one of you changes the subject

[Curerofsouls]

@NiceGerbil I love that idea!

[JasonMomoasgirlfriend]

Get him to do his fair

Can you Fetch the stuffing on the kitchen side
Oh I think we all need a top up of wine...bil can you manage to do that?

Etc etc

But actually I kinda agree with a pp life is too short to entertain horrible people. Can't you go out for Christmas lunch instead?

[maddening]

Put a console in the bedroom they are staying in, you won't see him the whole time if he is so into gaming.

[pickingdaisies]

House bugger, the antithesis of a house elf
Maybe when he turns up, call out, Hey everyone, the house bugger is here!

[EishetChayil]

You don't have to host them. Nobody has a gun to your head.

Most of the Christmas stresses people have on here could easily be solved by "no, sorry! We won't be doing that."

[NapoleonOzmolysis]

My MIL could suck the joy out of any event. "Oh, you're doing that are you? Well, I suppose some people do." So bucks fizz with breakfast, mulled wine all morning, wine with dinner, Baileys after dinner - then at least we'd get some peace while she slept all afternoon but she would just get quiet and sleep. Is your BIL a belligerent drunk? It doesn't sound like you want to give him anything that's going to loosen his tongue.

How about petitioning your MP to keep/restrict travel from where they live? Pray for another plague?

[YouMeandtheSpew]

Not lighthearted but I have a relative a bit like this and I only realised quite recently that I don’t have to put up with offensive remarks in my own home just to keep the peace.

I also like @NiceGerbil’s suggestion. If you can all exchange unsubtle ‘meaningful’ glances with each other before changing the subject I think that will help too

[LakieLady]

I've got to an age where I no longer feel the need to tolerate dreadful people out of politeness.

I have a very unpleasant BIL: sexist, racist, homophobic, ignoramus, tax-dodging millionaire, who bullies his wife. I avoid him as much as possible, often making excuses not to go to family events that he's going to be at, and giving him a wide berth when we're both present. And I call him out on every single piece of prejudiced shite he comes out with.

But I wouldn't have him in my house. Sexists and racists aren't welcome here, neither are bullies. If I had a sibling with a BF like that, I'd explain why, and leave it up to them if they preferred to come alone or stay away.

[Bloodymess]

Can you be honest with your sister. Tell them they can come for dinner but otherwise a hotel, or just say boyfriend is not welcome.