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AIBU?

For getting really hacked off with DH acting like a martyr...

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Chirpygirl · 27/09/2007 13:42

just cos I am nearly 39 weeks pregnant, tired due to getting up with 19 month old DD every fecking morning at half 6, hormonal and irrational?
He was loading the dishwasher earlier as 'you don't look as if you are going to' so I burst into tears and said I was(quite a reasonable response from a pregnant woman to a snippy comment, I thought)
He then asked when as I had been on pc all morning and I said I had to as it is the only comfy chair cos I feel sick and my back hurts and I am fed up of being pregant and I am tired and he just sighed and went to get ready for work.

AND he didn't kiss me OR DD goodbye.

AND I have just rung to have a nice chat and he hasn't gone into work early, he's gone for a ride first so he isn't even answering his phone.

I might spit in his supper.

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belgo · 27/09/2007 13:43

'I might spit in his supper.'
lol, yes you do that

PrettyCandles · 27/09/2007 13:46

He feels like a martyr? You're the martyr - you're heavily pregnant FGS, why on earth should you load the dishwasher?!?!?!

Let him get on with it and don't try to justify yourself.

Chirpygirl · 27/09/2007 13:47

I have rung again and it is doing that telltale thing where it rings a few times and THEN goes to answerphone, so he is blatantly avioding me now.

Have decided I can't spit in his supper, as I am not going to make him any....so there!

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 27/09/2007 13:47

How come you're the one getting up early every morning?

LilRedWG · 27/09/2007 13:48

Agree with PC. Just ignore him and remind him that in a week or so, you will be going through labour - not him!

Chirpygirl · 27/09/2007 13:49

It's just the way he does that man thing of doing it as loudly as possible, with lots of huffing and puffing so I know he is doing it and what a kind, loving, thoughtful husband he is.

When I just want to shout at him cos he is messing up my routine (and doing it wrong! He put the baking trays in and now everything smells funny!)

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MamaD · 27/09/2007 13:49

Oh I'd make the supper - I'd just make sure the main ingredient was dog food........

HappyDaddy · 27/09/2007 13:50

Kick him in the cock and then laugh.

LilRedWG · 27/09/2007 13:51

Oh Chirpy Don't let it get to you and don't shout at him - at least he is doing it, allbeit grudgingly. Don't get me wrong, I'm NOT defending him, I just don't want you getting yourself in a tizz about this!

LilRedWG · 27/09/2007 13:51

LOL HappyDaddy!!!!

PrettyCandles · 27/09/2007 13:52

Go on, confuse him utterly: next time he huffily puffily does something for you, thank him oh-so-sweetly, "What a lovely considerate man you are". Accept it as your due.

Who knows, he may like the adulation and may want to earn more of it!

Chirpygirl · 27/09/2007 13:52

Kathy, cos he gets up for work at 6 and leaves at half 6, so as DD wakes up then I have to get up. Today he was on a late as he was working until 10 last night.

I don't mind that, I just wish he'd appreciate that sometimes I want to spend a couple fo hours doing fuck all without him (unintentionally) making me feel like a lazy cow!

He would be gutted if he read this as he honestly thinks he is helping as well

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HappyDaddy · 27/09/2007 13:53

Show the thread to him, then.

Yorkshirepudding · 27/09/2007 13:55

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Chirpygirl · 27/09/2007 13:56

Prettycandles, I know I should but he does it all wrong

I am being an ungrateful bitch really, at least he is helping...

I chinned him the other night by accident HappyDaddy and he went into a major sulk.
He had come to bed after me and was going to lie down as I lifted the duvet up and got him a good one with my elbow. I promptly burst into hysterical sniggers and he slept in the spare room as I couldn't stop laughing....

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HappyDaddy · 27/09/2007 13:56

Bless his sensitive little socks.

LilRedWG · 27/09/2007 13:57

Sounds like you are both hormonal at the moment!

LilRedWG · 27/09/2007 13:58

Any chance of getting a babysitter for DD this weekend and having a meal out together?

Tommy · 27/09/2007 13:58

chirpygirl - I think you might be married to my DH

this is exactly the things that we argue about, that I get upset about and he doesn't understand why

think it must be a man thing..

twofishes · 27/09/2007 13:59

oh don't spit....this is going to sound sooo mean but I have been known to run a certain someones toothbrush around the toilet rim after a tiff VERY satisying...but then maybe I am a bit sadistic!!!

casbie · 27/09/2007 14:02

all men do this...

my hubby is a house-husband and he still says 'i've done the washing-up for you'.

for me? well, thanks, but i prefer flowers!

Kathyis6incheshigh · 27/09/2007 14:02

Oh that's fair enough about the mornings then. Bloody tough on you though.

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walbert · 27/09/2007 14:02

Chirpygirl, this is what dh and i argue about often, but this week he had to go to a gov meeting straight after work on tues, so out of house 9.30, home at 10.00 at night, had got some midge bites that were infected n his legs so after have beans on toast for tea (hey, i made the toast and warmed the beans!) went up to hospital coz legs were ballooning, got hme after 12.00, then last night he got in at 7.30, i had got tea cooking while putting dd to bed so dh did all ironing and told me to sit down and watch diy sos! So your dh may have a sudden fit of unexpected helpfulness!

Chirpygirl · 27/09/2007 14:03

Can't go out (much as I'd love to) as we have no money and he is working every day for the overtime.
Which is probably why he is knackered and grumpy too.
Which doesn't help me much!

Pre pregnancy we'd go for a ride on his bike together into the country but I can't even do that now.

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Chirpygirl · 27/09/2007 14:07

Ugh yes, the 'I've done this for you' thing
Drives me mental! He has 3 or 4 chores, changing lightbulbs, emptying bins, cleaning birdcages out and hoovering round bird cages....all stuff I can't do as it involves lifting, and I am always thanking him for it!

walbert - I doubt it, but will let you know if he does! his mum is coming to look after DD when I go into labour so he will just get her to do it all for him!

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