This will be long, so apologies but I need to give a bit of background!
I've known a friend (A) for many years. She was in a long relationship with B, until they split up about 5 years or so ago now. A wanted to get married and have children, B didn't, so she decided to stay with him despite this because she thought he was the one.
A is quite a complicated person who doesn't really help herself...she worked in the same min wage job that she hated for 20 years initially because she thought she'd give up work when she and B got married, and then because...well, I don't know. She doesn't cook or do anything but the most basic housework. When she and B lived together (it was his house) she let him do 90% because it was his house. Being devil's advocate I can see why B thought marriage and kids would mean him doing everything, and therefore why he probably didn't fancy it.
Anyway after they split up, A continued living at B's house most of the time, although she had a place of her own (because it was easier to get to work from his, she got dinner there, her place didn't have heating because she wouldn't get her landlord round to fix it...the list goes on. I assume also because she hoped they'd get back together). A and B shared a bed, but didn't have sex (hadn't for last few years of relationship). Still went on holidays together, parties together, you name it.
Anyway a year or so ago, B started to get closer to C, a lady who was a member of a sporting club they both went to (A has never done the sport, but just went along to mind the kit etc). A was upset. C found As presence at B's house a bit odd and apparently encouraged him to get A to move her stuff out (3 car loads, not just a toothbrush and spare underwear!).
B and C are now officially together. C is about 10 years older than B although looks good for her age; A is 5 years younger than B.
Since all this first came out, A and our small group of friends have constantly been slating C. What a bitch she is, digs about how she dresses like mutton, her age, her tan (she is a real sun worshipper, the opposite of A), she wears too much makeup, calling her Madge (Benidorm), and more. At first I got that this was allowing A to vent her upset, but a year on, it's still happening. I will confess I've not spoken to A since March but last time I did, her conversation was still all about B said this, C had done that, how awful C looked in social media photos etc. And our what's app group is still full of Madge photos and memes.
AIBU to be a bit done with it all? I don't know C, and really neither B or C have actually done anything wrong, I don't think that the bitchfest is warranted and it just distracts A from actually moving on with her life?
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To feel uncomfortable about the ongoing bitchfest towards this woman?
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Mazna · 28/06/2020 10:53
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