I can't stand my husband. He's so emotionally immature and abusive. I feel so trapped. We have 2 kids and been together ten years. I have an older child who comes to see me at weekends.
I have no family at all and no friends who I feel I can rely on. Everyone that knows us tells me I have the perfect man. How he's such a nice person.
I have no money of my own. I have spent so much time doing up our house I don't want to leave it. He's regularly left and came back again, except he's not done that for two years now which is a record. I rarely have sex with him because I don't like him. I try my best to tolerate him but usually and up giving him the fuck off sign behind his back when I'm not smiling at his face.
He says how I'm the best thing ever, until he has a bad day or the kids have annoyed him, then he'll storm home in the middle of days out and ignore me, if I try to stop him he threatens to cause a scene, which he has before and it's so embarrassing.
If I get upset about it he gets even more annoyed. The only way to fix the situation is for me to pacify him and act as though it was me who did something.
So I always end up saying, I'm sorry I reacted like that I was just upset you were annoyed....
If I do that and pretend then everything goes back to normal quickly.
I hate it because it's him!!!
When I met him I was a single mum and working just fine and I feel like over the ten years I've nothing.
No money, no friends, no job!!!
I think if I have an affair, will I be happier?
He'd never find out because he works so much and thinks I'm a faithful idiot. Don't start going on about lockdown, that won't last forever.
If I had a distraction on the side or a connection with someone, maybe I could tolerate him.
Without going on longer, it's a difficult situation right now to get a job myself and get childcare for two.
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Thedeadcannon · 20/06/2020 19:07
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