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busyme1 Thu 06-Sep-07 22:42:54

To expect my first love who i am in contact with from time to time- lives in another country to at least acknowlege Email or reply email i sent, to say it was my birthday last week.

SleeplessInTheStaceym11House Thu 06-Sep-07 22:48:44

might be a bit harsh but YABU, sometimes life gets in the way of email

sweetcherrypie Thu 06-Sep-07 22:49:10

YABU to expect him to remember. If it were a currant boyfriend then you have every right to be mad but as it's your ex then he shouldn't be expected to remember. I am still friends with my ex who was my first love and i wouldn't expect him to send me a txt or an email to say happy birthday (he had trouble when we were together grin

Without meaning to sound mean, even though your still friends he has probably moved on to another part of his life and your not his priority anymore (still not being mean). My first love has a new girlfriend now and i accept that he has moved on and don't expect anything from him anymore. smile

busyme1 Thu 06-Sep-07 22:52:26

He could at least replied to email i sent....

controlfreakybackfromherhols Thu 06-Sep-07 22:53:43

you'll get over it..... move on!

sweetcherrypie Thu 06-Sep-07 22:54:29

Do you still want him because it sounds a bit like do? (still not being mean)

Olihan Thu 06-Sep-07 22:54:58

YABU, he lives in another country, contact is sporadic, he's your ex - he most likely has other things to do and it isn't as important to him as it is to you.

My dh finds it hard enough to acknowledge my birthday and he lives with me, sees me constantly and we're happily married.

It's a man thing smile.

MamaG Thu 06-Sep-07 22:55:07

LOL at controlfreaky - don't mince your words, will you!!

I do agree tho with CF

Doodledootoo Thu 06-Sep-07 22:56:39

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3andnomore Thu 06-Sep-07 22:58:34

well, unless you are really involved in eachothers lifes now...there is no reason for acknoledgement, especially if contact is over it, tbh...

busyme1 Thu 06-Sep-07 22:58:37

SAD isn't, from time to time I feel something, i'm happily married with kids.

We met up some years back and promised each other we will be in each other's hearts forever!

3andnomore Thu 06-Sep-07 23:00:48 send him an e-mail to remind him of your special day...I hope not...I mean, that would be sad...and if he hasn't replied to a generic E-mail...gosh, it si sort of Holiday season, so, oh maybe he just wans't around to reply...honest...get over yourself here....

3andnomore Thu 06-Sep-07 23:02:39

busy...if you are meant to be in eachothers hearts...well, then there is no need for acknoledgement, meant to read eachother say you are hapily, why is this so important....?????????????????

HonoriaGlossop Thu 06-Sep-07 23:05:21

If I were him I'd deliberately ignore any e-mail, from anyone who would e-mail to 'say it was their birthday'. Cringe.

YAB totally U

busyme1 Thu 06-Sep-07 23:06:10

is not, i just feel its very rude of him to ignore email, i 'm not going to contact him again as CF said, will move on ,

ghosty Thu 06-Sep-07 23:08:35

Isn't it a bit weird to be 'happily married' but talk of a 'first love' and 'being in eachother's hearts for ever'?

Olihan Thu 06-Sep-07 23:09:57

God, I 'ignore' emails from good friends all the time. I open them, read them the RL takes over and I forget that I ought to reply for weeks on end. I'm not ignoring them on purpose, it's just what happens. I don't get offended if it happens the other way round.

busyme1 Thu 06-Sep-07 23:10:09

no really, talked of fond memories etc, nothing to do with present situations

3andnomore Thu 06-Sep-07 23:28:50

YABU...then...honest you are being a precious oprincess here...

MilkMonitor Fri 07-Sep-07 08:36:40

Maybe he wants to slowly phase you out of his life? I'm sure he's got a lot of people who are more in his life whose birthdays he has to remember. YABU.

Why are you hankering after attention from your first love?

breeze Fri 07-Sep-07 08:40:18

agreed YABU

IF your happily married this wouldn't even have come on your radar.

breeze Fri 07-Sep-07 08:41:22

or perhaps he has a new girlfriend/love of his life, that finds it quite bizarre the emails the talk of hearts forever, reminds me of my early teenage years.

geekymummy Fri 07-Sep-07 10:39:18

would your DH be pleased to hear this? I wouldn't be happy about it, for sure!


choccybuttons Fri 07-Sep-07 10:53:00

I don't understand why you think your ex still has to make effort with you? It sounds like he has moved on and you really shouldn't be getting upset or annoyed that he didn't reply especially as your married with two kids. YABU.

busyme1 Fri 07-Sep-07 11:06:40

yea isuppose im BU, but i thought we could stay friends

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