Ok so let me contextualise this question. I have a number of siblings but only 4 of us are old enough to go on holiday together.
Years ago it was my 30th and i went away with my sister who was the only one old enough to come away with me. Lets call her Susan.
At the time of deciding where to go we were deciding between two places; Peru and Thailand. At the time Susan said to me ‘don’t worry about picking one though, because whichever one we don’t go to now, we can do for my 30th in three years time.’
So we picked Peru and i took it as a given that comes Susans 30th birthday we would celebrate with a trip to Thailand.
However since this holiday several things of importance have happened. Susan has gotten serious with her boyfriend (they now live together) and two of my other sisters have gotten old enough to go on holiday. One of them - lets call her Beth, is turning 21 this year and she also lives with her boyfriend. The other, lets call her Lily, is 19 and single.
Now i have today found out that basically Susan has asked Beth if she would like to go away on a joint couples holiday, to celebrate Susans 30th and Beths 21st.
Myself and Lily are not invited. Presumably because we are single or because we aren’t celebrating big birthdays this year.
I feel upset for two reasons.
The first is obviously that i have thought for years that myself and Susan (and possibly Lily and Beth) would go away to Thailand this year, just us sisters to celebrate the birthdays. I feel like a promise that was made to me years ago is being broken.
Second, i find it really hurtful that this hasn’t been discussed with Lily and I and the reasons for us not being invited haven’t been discussed. I literally found out from Susan posting on Facebook asking for destination recommendations and then i asked my mum about it.
AIBU to be upset? Should i just be happy for them and let them crack on with celebrating their birthdays however they like? Or should I tell them how i feel?
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AIBU to be upset over sisters going on holiday together
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Keggi · 25/02/2020 16:57
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Am I being unreasonable?
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