I had my first miscarriage on Thursday last week, it’s still going on. Thursday was one of the worst days of my life. My DH told his mother on Friday morning on the phone and I’ve seen her twice since then. Not once did she ask me if I’m ok or send me a little text to tell me she’s thinking of me or anything. We saw his brother and sister on Saturday too and mentioned it to them and neither his brother’s wife or his sister has contacted me either to see how I’m doing. His mother is usually very excitable and hyper and was her usual self when I saw her, no different. AIBU to feel hurt by their lack of compassion? My husband has no answer when I ask him why they’re like this and for context, they’re always putting out there how family is everything and we only need each other but i have mostly seen from them a lot of selfish behaviour over the years and feel they’re all very surface with each other, anything real is avoided. But surely her son and his wife losing their baby is cause for a little compassion?? Two days after my miscarriage started I was out buying her Christmas presents from her to my two year old! And she boasted she’s done no Christmas shopping because everyone’s done it for her (she’s retired, young, fit and healthy - goes to the gym every day). Help!
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