Sorry for the rant but my SIL is really getting to me. She has done a lot in the 4 years we have been family to annoy me but now I have had enough. When I met DH, his brother asked if we wanted to take nephew out on trips so that DH could spend time with him. SIL refused to let us take him anywhere she didn’t pick herself so we ultimately refused to take him anywhere. This upset my DH as he loves spending time with his nephew and eventually MIL stepped in and spoke to my BIL to explain to his wife that she couldn’t tell us where we could take him seeing as we were paying for everything. Months later she started letting us take him to places that we picked, like the zoo and aquarium, but would ring every half hour and make nephew upset with each call saying, “I miss you so much I’m crying”. We would stop answering her calls but then BIL and MIL would ring asking why we were ignoring SIL. We started taking him swimming (as SIL cannot swim), bought him new costumes, goggles, and equipment. His goggles would leave little rings around his eyes and each time I was getting him dressed, I would find bruises on his back (they have 5 large dogs so I never suspected anything wrong, just rough housing with the dogs). We would get a call after we dropped him off at home asking why he had rings on his eyes and why was there bruises that were not there before. We would point out that they were and the rings where from goggles, but she would insist the bruises were not there that morning. I got sick of being accused so stopped taking him, which they then kicked off at so MIL paid him to have private 1-2-1 lessons and they refused to take him. We recently announced that DH and I are expecting our first child and she has not spoken to me once since the announcement. She comes to MILs every Sunday for dinner and not once in the 6 weeks since the announcement has she spoken to me. For nephews birthday last week she sent fancy invitations to all the family except DH and I, telling us it’s a kids party and only family with children have been invited. However, her two brothers were invited and they don’t have children, but then BIL rang to ask why we hadn’t dropped off nephews bday present. I have asked to stop coming to family dinners because she is making it so awkward and uncomfortable and only DH is backing me up. MIL says that because SIL cannot have any more children, I should be more understanding and courteous to her situation but she actively refuses to talk to me and I have heard her tell MIL and BIL that I will be a bad mother; I am so sick of her.
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KittenMama93 · 03/12/2019 10:56
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Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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