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AIBU?

To eat the cake??

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Dontfuckingsaycheese · 09/04/2019 03:32

Me, ds (16) and sister were in a lovely restaurant/bar on Saturday. Lovely weekend in London together. We'd eaten our meal and I looked over and noticed that the people sitting on nearby table had gone. It (I assume) was someone's birthday as they'd sung Happy Birthday (well I assume they did, the band playing at the time were a bit loud!) and they'd had a cake. Well. There was some slices of cake left. On the plate with the knife that had cut the cake. ie not 'someone's plate' and I said I'm having some of that. Sister and Ds were absolutely appalled at the idea. But I went and got a little slice. It was lovely. Just a little supermarket cake but still very tasty!! They could not believe it. And it is still being mentioned!! Their problems were someone might have seen - it was quite quiet by then. I said 'you didn't see that!’ to next table - they weren't phased don't think they saw me till I spoke. Secondly that I took it off someone else's table. My view was they cut the cake. Left on the cutting up plate or like a platter. Similar to if it was in a buffet. No problem at all. But they would not see it!!

I said. Well I'm going to ask Mumsnet then - but only just had time to post.

WIBU?? It was cake!!!!!

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Monty27 · 09/04/2019 03:35

I'm not sure. Although it's funny. I may have done the same myself

Alicewond · 09/04/2019 03:36

I wouldn’t of because I’m a wimp,but you are my hero now!!!

Monty27 · 09/04/2019 03:39

Addendum:
If it had been an expensive personalised big cake I wouldn't have done it in case the family were coming back to the restaurant the next day to pick it up and the staff would have been charged with it

Alicewond · 09/04/2019 03:39

Your next task op, fix global warming, you are capable:)

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 09/04/2019 03:55

Feeling a bit better about it now!! Thank you. TBH felt a bit sorry for the cake. There was only 2/3 collapsed slices left though. Not a great load of it. I had to pick my bit of side icing up separately! Weird thing is if it hadn't been a celebration cake I wouldn't have done it. That would have been wrong!! Say they'd ordered some strange large cut at the table sharing gateau I wouldn't have had that. A birthday cake says hey. Come and have a piece of me. Celebrate the birthday of the person who walked out of the door 10 minutes ago!!

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Monty27 · 09/04/2019 04:58

You're making me feel like I wish I was there. And I now need cake

BloodsportForAll · 09/04/2019 05:01

Cake.

Alicewond · 09/04/2019 05:06

That cake would have been thrown in the bin, it would have been sad, you showed it it’s purpose!

Monty27 · 09/04/2019 05:23

I have just had 🍰 cake.
M and s something or other from the fridge 😂
I did leave some for DD

MeetMeInMontauk · 09/04/2019 06:32

The cake is a lie.

Monty27 · 09/04/2019 06:45

Mine or OP? I can rest assure you mine isn't a lie. You can have a photo of the miniscule leftovers in the fridge if necessary

MrsEricBana · 09/04/2019 07:03

I would have been appalled if you'd done that BUT, as others have said, it almost certainly would have gone in the bin so no harm done. (Lots of things appal me though )

Rottencooking · 09/04/2019 07:24

I also would have been appalled if you did that tbh and I say that as a greedy twat.

Rottencooking · 09/04/2019 07:42

(Though as others have said, no harm done. So IABU!)

Pipps35 · 09/04/2019 07:58

I wouldn’t have had the guts to do it but I’d probably find it funny if I seen you do it and wish I had your gumption.

Perfectly good cake and I hate food waste🤷🏻‍♀️

BlueMerchant · 09/04/2019 08:00

No thanks. They could have been coughing, sneezing or just generally fingering it. Erm no ta.

GreytExpectations · 09/04/2019 08:11

That is hilarious, OP. I mean, it is a bit odd and I can understand why people would be appalled by it. Personally I wouldn't have done it but I think that's more because I wouldn't have had the guts to and it'd feel like taking a strangers "leftovers" in a weird way. But fair play to you!

butterflykiss00 · 09/04/2019 08:18

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

dudsville · 09/04/2019 08:18

I have given this a lot of thought. I wouldn't have taken the cake, however when I stop to consider my reasoning I'm not happy with the results.

Result a) it's not the done thing, not how "nice" people behave.

This rule feels like a middle class trap. I wondered about other instances of left behind things. When I come across coins on the ground I don't pick them up because I can't be bothered and someone else might need them more than me. This cake scenario is similar in that it's something in good usable condition (not food from their plate) that could otherwise go to waste.

Result 1) it could appear greedy.

Again this feels like another trap. Why must I work hard not to appear like I need the cake or coin? Obviously I don't, the cake or coin is just a nice bonus to life. For whom am I performing?

So, whilst I would not have taken the cake and would have been a little uncomfortable watching you do it, I do not think it was wrong of you.

nordstrom · 09/04/2019 08:21

My reply (before even reading your post), is that you should always eat the cake! HTH

BabyDarlingDollfaceHoney · 09/04/2019 10:12

Wrong and cringe worthy in my book I'm afraid. If I'd been with you'd I'd have been mortified. You can't eat a stranger's leftovers in a restaurant.

Rockbird · 09/04/2019 10:14

It wasn't strictly leftovers though. She didn't scrape it off someone's plate. I also wouldn't have done it but I'd have looked longingly at it...

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TheChiefBMS · 09/04/2019 10:20

No, YANBU. You are a brave warrior tackling the natural injustice and national shame that is food waste!

I would be too self conscious to do it, but I'd have sat there thinking about it.

PinkHeart5914 · 09/04/2019 10:20

Umm no I don’t tend to raid leftover food as I’m not a fox.

A decent well made cake I might be tempted but I wouldn’t due to the cringe factor but a supermarket cake I wouldn’t even be tempted, most supermarket cakes aren’t worth the calories

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 09/04/2019 12:14

Loving the replies here. The general consensus appears to be - but it was caaake!!!
To me it had been anything other than a celebration cake it would have been weird and skanky. It is weird what socially imposed rules we set for ourselves. And how all ours vary so much!! I can't excuse myself and dress this up as my fight against global food wastage/hunger. I remember on here I think someone talking about their child insisting they bought those reduced birthday cakes they always have in supermarkets as they felt so sorry for them not being able to realise their potential! I felt like that also made it ok 🙂

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