So I’ve been in a LDR with a man I really like for 4 months. He broke up with his ex a couple of months before we got together and he now lives about 10 mins from the family home. He hasn’t told his ex about me yet as it’s fairly new and he doesn’t want to make things uncomfortable between him and her, and therefore risk things being difficult for their children (9 and 12). He often takes them to and from school and sometimes eats at his ex’s. Everything is as amicable as it could be given that they’ve fairly recently broken up. He lives about 2 hours from me, I’m a single parent so we see each other on child free weekends.
He’s due to have surgery which will mean a 6-12 week recovery time and at the very least a month of finding dressing and cooking difficult. His ex has suggested that he stays with her while he’s convalescing. She’s in a large house with a spare bedroom. His only family live a 4 hour drive away although he has good friends who live near by. I don’t want to be selfish about this, but I don’t feel ok about it. I don’t think he wants to get back together with her, I trust that he wants to be with me. He”s told me that he and his ex were unhappy together for years but kept their relationship going because of the children. It was a mutual decision to separate. On a practical level, I can see it makes sense, emotionally I’m really not into it. It almost feels like a deal breaker for me. AIBU?
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Neverknewitdbelikethis · 21/03/2019 19:11
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