In my late teens & early 20s I was in a relationship with a man for four years who thrived on coercive control. He was controlling and verbally abusive, but never got to full violence. I wonder sometimes if he would have, had I not left.
He came up in my recommended friends on Facebook yesterday and he's married with two kids. I looked at his wife & wondered if she is going through what he did to me, or whether it's possible for a man to change and be a different person in a different relationship. I hope for her sake it's the latter, but can a person ever really change?
I've also been single for ten years, I've never had a proper relationship since him, just flings. I actually posted a thread on mumsnet recently wondering why. After seeing him, I wonder if it's because I subconsciously don't want to end up with someone like him again.
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Can abusive men ever change?
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Lamplight5 · 09/03/2019 16:20
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