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Evilorange Fri 08-Mar-19 15:29:15

I don’t think they are pleased

formerbabe Fri 08-Mar-19 15:30:15

Really not a lot to go on confused

daisypond Fri 08-Mar-19 15:31:35

We need more info. Do you have caring responsibilities? Are you trying to get paid or unpaid time off, etc? How long for?

Sirzy Fri 08-Mar-19 15:31:46

More detail needed but yes you quite likely are, especially if expecting to be paid!

missmouse101 Fri 08-Mar-19 15:33:43

I'll? Is that ill? How much time are you hoping to take? What job do you do?

Drum2018 Fri 08-Mar-19 15:35:54

Are you the only person available to mind her?

LostwithSawyer Fri 08-Mar-19 15:39:00

Even unpaid time away from work for a grandmother is pushing the boat.
My employers policy does allow time off for immediate family only and even then it's at their discretion.

cuppycakey Fri 08-Mar-19 15:40:35

Difficult to tell with such brief info, but on the face of it, yes YABU

<<awaits massive dripfeed>>

Evilorange Fri 08-Mar-19 15:51:06

Why unreasonable?

Halloumimuffin Fri 08-Mar-19 15:51:40

Noone knows why unreasonable, you haven't said anything

MakeLemonade Fri 08-Mar-19 15:53:36

Agree more info needed.

Grandparents tend to be old and therefore ill relatively frequently, if everyone was to take time off every time a grandparent was ill that’d be unsustainable for most businesses.

If she’s very seriously ill, you’re her main carer and this is the first time it’s happened then YANBU.

Frecklesonmyarm Fri 08-Mar-19 15:54:44

It would totally depend on circumstances.

OnlyFoolsnMothers Fri 08-Mar-19 15:56:34

Im assuming the issue is you want paid leave whereas your company states you need take annual leave- in which case YABU.

MissingPanda Fri 08-Mar-19 15:58:58

We need more detail. Are you her carer? Is this the first time you've asked for a day off? Is she elderly, has disabilities, generally in good/bad health? What sort of job do you do? Does your job need covering or will it still be waiting until you get back? How much time do you need off?

Floralnomad Fri 08-Mar-19 16:01:15

YABU to expect answers when you have given such little information .

RUOKHUN Fri 08-Mar-19 16:04:19

Is this just a normal illness as part of getting older? Are you her carer? Sorry to be crude but is she expected to pass?

I think YWBU if it’s, for example, diabetes that she’s mismanaged due to age and she’ll be alright in a couple of days. But if this is a chance to say goodbye then YWNBU. Totally depends.

JenniferJareau Fri 08-Mar-19 16:04:29

No one can tell you if you are being unreasonable unless more details are provided.

1. Do you expect the time to be paid?
2. Are you her carer?
3. Did you give them advanced warning or just didn't go into work?


shaggedthruahedgebackwards Fri 08-Mar-19 16:05:06

As other have said its impossible to judge without more info

How ill is she?
Are you regularly involved in her care?
How much time do you want off work?
Would leave be paid or unpaid?

Pinkbells Fri 08-Mar-19 16:08:09

If she is gravely ill then it would be pretty mean of your employer not to allow you time off work.

PiebaldHamster Fri 08-Mar-19 16:12:21

Need more info.

Nowthenforever2019 Fri 08-Mar-19 16:13:20

It's not automatically reasonable, no. You have a contract you deliver a certain join for so many hours a week. You are allowed time off that job for certain reasons if eligible - if you have a dependents policy and have caring responsibilities, for example. But it all depends on the wording of your contract and the orgs policies, plus your personal circumstances which you haven't explained here.

Toooldtocareanymore Fri 08-Mar-19 16:15:34

very unreasonable, why should they care if your Nan is ill, during work hours that's not your concern, you have a job presumably nothing to do with caring for your nan , they presumably have something that needs doing, you don't want to show up, then leave the job so they can fill position with someone else.

its one think letting people take compassionate leave, its entirely something else to expect employers to be happy about it..

hope Nan is feeling better soon.

Lazypuppy Fri 08-Mar-19 16:18:02

You could ask for unpaid. But will massively affect your attendance record, and this could cause them to manage you out on unacceptable absence levels

hammeringinmyhead Fri 08-Mar-19 16:20:13

If you are caring for her, fine. If you are just sad that she is ill, YABU.

Namechangeforthiscancershit Fri 08-Mar-19 16:22:13


Other than that helpful answer, a lot more info needed!

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