I have a 3 year old with my ex. He has always been next to useless since she was born but i put it down to her being small/him being immature etc. Well she's 4 soon and he's still just as bad. She sees him every saturday 11-4, but it's like he could care less. I drop her off and he rarely does anything with her unless someone else is going/suggests it.
Puts her in front of the tv mostly. His behaviour in front of her is inappropriate in my opinion - swears, spits, constant cigarette breaks, no toys for her at his house, rarely gives her a meal just crisps and sweets. The list is endless. I have tried and tried with him even he would admit that but there is no helping him be a half decent dad to her.
She now doesn't want to go to his. Last time she was due to go she got so upset crying and i told him i wasn't forcing her to go. Spoke to him again today and said that if she's like that again this week she won't be coming as i'm not forcing her. He replies telling me that I have to make her do things she doesn't want to do or she will grow up doing what she wants. I don't think i'm being unreasonable? I understand she has to do things she doesn't want to (she hates doing many things - teeth brushing for example but i make her do it) but having to get her into the car and then leave her when she's that upset is not something i'm willing to do.
Does anyone have any advice on getting him to understand she needs to be doing things/needs feeding/shouldn't be witnessing inappropriate things as above? And am i being unreasonable here?
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jennybinky · 01/03/2019 15:57
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