Wasn't too sure of a word but since getting with my now DH, my DM seems to have taken a dislike to him and his family.
For background I grew up, I wouldn't say poor as we were always provided for, but with DM struggling to make ends meet. She went through spells of employment (such as cleaning) off the books and also had a long term job which she also didn't declare her money for, until she was let go when the business shut down. DM was out of employment but now works 5 hours a day in a school setting meaning she has school holidays and weekends off.
My ILs own their own house and my MIL does not work as she is a carer for an elderly relative. My DM seems to begrudge this as she thinks it's lazy and in her terms "unfair" that my ILs can afford holidays when only one is working. However my FIL works 10 hours a day, 6 days a week and from what DH has told me they were never lavish spenders when he was growing up as they had a mortgage. DM on the other hand has always rented and spent most of her money on nights out.
In no way am I now looking down on my own DM but I'm exhausted with her constant digs about my DH and we argue regularly about whether it's "luck" that some people are more well off, or whether it's down to hard work. It's at the point where I just walk away from the conversation and she becomes more angry, does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this?
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pinktrenchcoat · 22/02/2019 01:33
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