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AIBU?

AIBU to think that this is just wrong?

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HiddingMyIdentity · 07/02/2019 17:34

A girl I know, lets call her K, recently had a baby. K has just turned 18, and she was living with her sister and nephew. K and baby clearly had their own room judging by the 500+ photos she shares on shapchat daily.

K just shared a photo of her new house keys. Apparently for her and baby, government funded of course as K has never worked a day in her life.

Ireland are having a massive homeless crisis, hostels and hotels are full to the brim with families, and K a few weeks after her 18th birthday gets given a house??

I work 50 hours a week, and had to move county to afford to rent a house. Yet this one pops out a kid at 17 and gets handed a house, that I and all the outer tax payers of Ireland are paying for, as her 18th birthday present from the State!

There are families out there in much worse living conditions than K, who have been on housing lists for years, why should she get a house ahead of them??

Is it just me who thinks that this is wrong?

Sorry I needed a bit of a rant!

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cuntymckuntface · 07/02/2019 18:06

Yanbu
It's so frustrating
My dh and I bust our balls to work, and balance childcare.
Our house is so shabby at the moment we would need easily £15k to make it nice. Full re-decoration, new bathroom and kitchen are needed and outside could do with a makeover.
My cousin has just been given a 4bed semi which isn't brand new, but she's had all basic decorations done along with new bathroom and kitchen. Her rent is £80 per week.
And it's close to our town centre.
And yip, you've guessed it, she's never worked a day.
It makes you wonder who the mug is in all this

SubparOwl · 07/02/2019 18:32

More fool her I say, would surely have been easier/more fun to stay with her sister and another child. Unless, in fact, the situation was much worse than it appeared.

Babyroobs · 07/02/2019 18:33

Yes its frustrating but she must be in an area of the country where there is enough social housing. this doesn't happen everywhere.

SteelRiver · 07/02/2019 18:37

YANBU at all, OP. I wonder if this situation happens in other countries, not just the UK & Ireland.

Fattymcfaterson · 07/02/2019 18:42

Is it wrong? No
Would you rather stay K stay in a more than likely overcrowded place with her sister than have her own home with her child?
I wonder where her parents are tbh?

If it's so great being a young single mother on benifits why don't you give it a go?

HowlsMovingBungalow · 07/02/2019 18:44

I popped a kid out at 18 , I'm in my 40s now... never been given social housing.

I have always rented due to housing shortages.

Intohellbutstayingstrong · 07/02/2019 19:01

If it's so great being a young single mother on benifits why don't you give it a go?

Oh for goodness sake. There's always one.

Greensleeves · 07/02/2019 19:06

...actually there is more than one

Mind your on bloody business. Bitter, churlish busybody isn't a good look on anyone.

Intohellbutstayingstrong · 07/02/2019 19:17

Missed the point there @Greensleeves

YouSayPotatoesISayVodka · 07/02/2019 19:18

Actually there’s 3. Honestly, begrudging someone a home What the hell is wrong with some people?! And having a baby by the age of 18 isn’t as much fun as you’d think

StopMakingAFoolOutofMe · 07/02/2019 19:19

You sound bitter and jealous, OP.

HowlsMovingBungalow · 07/02/2019 19:20

I bet she's got a brand new 52" flatscreen tv too.

Stinkytoe · 07/02/2019 19:20

I’d rather be busting my guts but having a supportive partner and stable income than be a single mother at 18 years old to be honest.

ATBhinchers · 07/02/2019 19:23

YANBU the country (both England and Ireland) is fucked because of this. What is honestly the point in working these days?! It's a joke. Free childcare if both parents work full time from age 1 should be the rule at the minimum. Tax credits for those that work full time not those that get part time wage, maintenance, Free hours at nursery, AND tax credits. I see that set up a lot and they earn a fuck load more than me! It's so wrong. Any who rant over.

Bombardier25966 · 07/02/2019 19:23

It's not a race to the bottom. You don't know her circumstances and why she was allocated housing ahead of another family, but there will be a valid reason.

What are you doing to change the housing situation in Ireland? Have you spoken to your MP about your concerns, what solutions are they proposing?

LostwithSawyer · 07/02/2019 19:25

It doesn't seem fair at all from the outside but as it's based on points she must have been high up on the list.

StopMakingAFoolOutofMe · 07/02/2019 19:26

ATBhinchers - What a nasty post. Are you always this awful?

Greensleeves · 07/02/2019 19:26

No, I don't think I did.

And the poster that said "the country is fucked because of this"...your ignorance is embarrassing. This woman's living expenses are peanuts. Do you really not know where the money is actually going?

ATBhinchers · 07/02/2019 19:27

It's not nasty it's factual. People that work full time should be rewarded not shit on with £1000 per month childcare and no real help from the government.

greendale17 · 07/02/2019 19:33

It's not nasty it's factual. People that work full time should be rewarded not shit on

^Yep. The feckless and irresponsible people get rewarded.

DoneLikeAKipper · 07/02/2019 19:34

Oh goody, another goady benefits bashing thread by either a new poster (or one too cowardly to use their real username).

Life on benefits is not one to aspire to, it's not easy, no one is living some grand chosen life of luxury. If she hadn't found a home, she may well be one of the homeless you're ironically lamenting. You don't know how she came by her circurmstances, don't judge someone's life through facebook. You think she's so lucky, pehaps give up everything you've worked hard for to live a similar life.

StopMakingAFoolOutofMe · 07/02/2019 19:37

Jesus Christ. Ashamed to share my airspace with people like this.

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HowlsMovingBungalow · 07/02/2019 19:44

@StopMakingAFoolOutofme

Sadly, there are lots that think this way. Hasn't changed since I was that 18 year old.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 07/02/2019 19:45

There are families out there in much worse living conditions than K, who have been on housing lists for years, why should she get a house ahead of them??

I’ll bet it’s because she stomped her feet and demanded one To show just how entitled she was. Right? Or maybe it’s because she was next on the list and everyone after her wasn’t in as much need as her. Maybe you should speak to the housing office and demand to know why your tax money is paying for this social injustice.

GlitterStick · 07/02/2019 19:53

Yeah, another one saying you sound very bitter and jealous.

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