To be sick of BF being a gentleman

[Kakamora]

I'm so tired of my boyfriend seemingly trying to prove he's a gentleman when it's inappropriate.
Some examples:

We went on holiday with friends and one friend hurt her leg, he was carrying her round on his back most the holiday whilst I walked on my own.
I was on a night out separate to his night out and a person in his friendship group he briefly dated was drunk and he carried her back to her friends house.

I don't think it's appropriate, my friends all think my annoyance is uncalled for but why can't he take my feelings into account he's always looking after these girls when he shouldn't be getting involved. Maybe one time but not situations like this all the time.

[Nikephorus]

Listen to your friends.

[GoblinSharts]

He appears to have a strange obsession with carrying women. It’s weird. Maybe suggest he looks into weight lifting.

[MsOliphant]

I think picking up women and carrying them about like little Disney princesses is a bit weird.

[YeTalkShiteHen]

If he carried a male friend home would it bother you?

[Kakamora]

Theyre just examples I could think of. He's tall so people encourage him to be the one who is the carrier in situations like that

[Gemini69]

He sounds like a man desperate to be the Hero..

[Kakamora]

I just want him to consider that yes! I am jealous. It'd be nice to hold my boyfriends hand or have him offer to carry me home when drunk. If he was single go for it, but he shouldn't be so agreeable to help all these women right? I know he doesn't mean anything by it but honestly it's just so annoying

[TheNavigator]

It sounds really annoying and all a bit over the top - how many women can need carried, really?

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

I just want him to consider that yes! I am jealous.

If that's your genuine reason; then yes, YABU. You cannot expect him to curb his behaviour because of your irrational jealousy.

It would be fine to find this weird because women aren't dolls that need to be carried around; and it's very strange that he finds himself in so many situations where he does need to carry a fully grown woman, but it doesn't sound like this is what bothers you.

[lapenguin]

Prince charming syndrome a bit... Wanting to be the amazing man helping a damsel in distress

[MsOliphant]

Ah, so you want to be carried

[AGirlinLondon]

1. @GoblinSharts best username on Mumsnet no contest
   

1. OP you might consider that you have just got a nice boyfriend. Mine is also like this, and is very considerate - but it’s not limited to carrying women around on nights out - so as long as he’s also up for doing stuff like helping old folks with their shopping or other things like that I think you’re fine.

[Cuppaorwine]

There’s a sport called wife carrying op. There are many events. Be spot on for you two.

Or get some really fat friends

[LuluJakey1]

Very odd. The only other women I have seen DH carry in the 10yrs I have known him are our 16m old DD and 15m old DN.

[BackforGood]

@Cuppaorwine

YABU to be upset that he is kind and considerate.
Does seem an odd amount of carrying however.

[LeighaJ]

"GoblinSharts

He appears to have a strange obsession with carrying women. It’s weird. Maybe suggest he looks into weight lifting."

Agree.

[LuluJakey1]

It's only a week or so ago you were posting about not being committed to him and asking if you should break up with him- as I recall. Sorry if I have misremembered.

[YeTalkShiteHen]

If he was single go for it, but he shouldn't be so agreeable to help all these women right? I know he doesn't mean anything by it but honestly it's just so annoying

Those two statements are totally contradictory. You sound very jealous.

[gamerwidow]

You’re problem isn’t with your boyfriend carrying women it’s because you’re jealous and your boyfriend can’t give other women attention without you getting in a mood. I’m assuming you were uninjured or otherwise encumbered when your BF carried your friends. It’s not like he said ‘you sort yourself out I’m interested in carrying someone different tonight’.
What sort of circle of friends do you have that requires this level of carrying anyway?

[TooTrueToBeGood]

It'd be nice to .......have him offer to carry me home when drunk

Classy.

[Cuppaorwine]

Is he Garston? Is he French?

[Namethecat]

When your next out - fake a stumble and pretend your hobbling on your ankle to see if he whisks you into his arms. If not you have your answer ( he just wants to get his hands on other women )

[Cuppaorwine]

you sort yourself out I am carrying someone else tonught

bloody funny gamerchick

[busybear]

My ex used to do this a lot. Any time any woman was having a problem, he would have to get involved. I often felt like I was second best.
One of the things I love about my now DH is that I come first with him. He will help others if needed but he doesn't go over board.

[BertrandRussell]

Are there any non carrying examples? Because the two things you mention seem quite normal for a friendship grip.