I am having a dilemma.. it's become VERY clear to me I just do not find my partner attractive. He is a good person. Genuine, funny, kind & loving. We have been together for around 4 years.
If I am being honest I have never been physically attracted to him, but I fell for his charm. I am now at the stage where I am getting a lot of attention from others and I am struggling to ignore it. My partner doesn't seem to take much pride in his looks and to me it just seems a bit like he doesn't WANT to impress me. I make an effort to look good and be the person he wants to be seen with and it makes me feel good too. I feel he isn't returning this. I know it's very selfish and shallow of me but I can't shake the feeling I could be with someone who I am attracted to. It is becoming increasingly hard to have sex with him because of this.
Our relationship is on thin ice at the moment as it is due to some other issues, and this is just not helping.
Please I would like some advice and opinions. I feel really horrible that I'm thinking this. Has anyone else been in the same position? Thank you.
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dayzee16 · 21/07/2018 13:15
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