To think this is disgusting

[twiggy3839]

I was always taught to brush my teeth twice a day. I can't sleep without doing it, and I would feel dirty if I went to work without doing it.

My boyfriend however, thinks it's perfectly acceptable to only brush his teeth once a day - in the evening. Since we moved in together this has really been bugging me, and I've noticed a slight smell (his breath).

I told him he needs to brish his teeth in the morning but he refuses. He says he doesn't have time/doesn't like doing it. Things got slightly better after a visit to the dentist a few months ago - he had to have 8 fillings and a root canal. This scared him for about a month, and he would brush his teeth twice a day.

Things quickly went back to 'normal' and he only brushes them in the evening again. When I tell him to do it he will just use mouthwash or floss and he thinks that's enough. He spends a fortune on expensive floss but won't just brush his teeth?!

I find it so gross but he won't change. So what I'm asking is, AIBU? Is it common for people to only brush their teeth once a day? It's not a question I ask people in real life

[Mrsbclinton]

Yes its gross. I cant imagine getting up in the morning and not brushing my teeth till bed time.
Its obviously affecting his oral health if he had to get all that work done at his last visit to the dentist.

[MellowMelly]

Noooooo. Doesn’t everyone brush their teeth in the morning?! After 8 hours of sleeping the mouth gets a bit stale. Who wouldn’t want to brush their teeth to get rid of that staleness!

[Dopplerineffect]

I could almost forgive the other way round, though that’s not good either.

The morning feels worse. Bleugh

[AWomanIsAnAdultHumanFemale]

Ewwww!!! So he spends his days breathing disgusting morning breath and breakfast all over everyone he speaks to? Yuck.

You need to do some over acting and turning your face away whilst grimacing when he talks in your direction.

[CrackerCrisp]

Refuse to kiss him then.

[comedycentral]

Urgh I couldn't go near him, I bet he stinks. I doubt he will change, especially after having 8 rotten teeth. Grim.
I wonder what else he doesn't wash properly!

[busybarbara]

My dentist said if you only have to brush once it should be last thing at night because otherwise the plaque and sugars sit there all night infesting your mouth. In the morning it's solely for breath because you eat breakfast or lunch within hours anyway.

[SamanthaH92]

Isn't brushing your teeth in the morning the first thing you do after going to the loo?! I have to admit there has been a few nights recently where i have just flossed and mouth washed so i don't wake my DD BUT it does make me feel dirty and i hate not doing them. I have a major phobia about my gums receding which after years of being a smoker they have a little bit (don't smoke now). Have you told him his breath smells?

[twiggy3839]

Yes I have told him his breath smells, he will then use mouthwash but still refuses to brush

[bridgetreilly]

Get him an electric toothbrush?

[SequinsOnEverything]

To be honest that would be a deal breaker for me.

[MiniAlphaBravo]

Yeah that’s disgusting. Do you actually want to be with him op? I couldn’t kiss or probably even talk close up to dh if he hadn’t brushed all day! Morning breath is gross. I would just tell him outright that he stinks and that its really unhealthy and if he refuses to change I would end things. Not sure I could have ever gone there in the first place though, bad breath not attractive.

[twiggy3839]

He already has an electric tooth brush

[TroubledLichen]

Disgusting. Personally I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone that had stinky breath because they refused to brush their teeth. It’s repulsive and lazy.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

Furry teeth are AWFUL! I can't bear the feel of my teeth until I've brushed them.

[Usernamesareboring]

To be fair I'm in my 40's and it was only ever something I did once (morning) as a kid, so I really struggle to remember in the evening too

Having said that, I have never even had a filling, and my dentist assured me that my teeth are perfect!!

[SamanthaH92]

Does he shower or bath every day? Is it just his teeth he doesn't do?

[twiggy3839]

He showers once a day (also in the evening)

[CaptainHammer]

sequins it would be a deal breaker for me too.
It takes 2 minutes, why wouldn’t you do it?!

[SamanthaH92]

Does he not worry about the effects off not doing them? How old is he?

[NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking]

I’m only once a day at the moment as it triggers my morning sickness.. and I’m struggling with that!

I couldn’t not brush in the morning, and I’ve been late for work several times because of the brush/vomit/brush/vomit/brush cycle I’m going through 🤢

I hate only brushing once a day 😩 it is probably doing me a favour to be fair, as my dentist does tell me off for over brushing... but it feels gross.

I don’t know how you’ve not finished with your fella..

[HotSauceCommittee]

How can you get it in with him and his death breath? I’m not sure I could go there with someone like that.

[HotSauceCommittee]

Pity you didn’t suss this out before you moved in with him.

[SandyY2K]

How can he get up and leave the house without brushing his teeth?

I couldn't be dealing with smelly breath. It would be a dealbreaker for me I'm afraid.

[SamanthaH92]

@notasgreenascabbagelooking I'm glad I'm not the only one this is one of the main things that sets my sickness off x