Ds has his prom on Friday night. After the prom at 11.30 there is a house party. There is alcohol at the party. Parents will be present. He has been to a house party there before and got drunk. Ds is 16.
About 3 months ago ds went to another bbq/party atbhis friends and there was a sleepover. I didn’t want him to sleepover because of exams/revision and was happy to pick him up about 10ish. Ds threw a tantrum and Dh agreed with him that’s he should be able to go and make his own decisions. I was ignored and off he went. Ds got so pissed he was sick (he is very honest with me and told me all of this the next day). The parents who were there got pissed too so there was no one checking on him or anything. Dh found it funny that ds had a hangover and had got pissed. Dh does not drink apart from maybe twice a year and then he only has one or two pints so he has no drink related problems.
Anyway fast forward to now. Ds has asked to sleep over at a friends house after the house party. I have said no. Dh and I talked at length about this as I was concerned about him drinking. I have offered to pick him up at any time even if that is at 3am. I have also offered to buy him a few cans of cider. Dh was in complete agreement with me.
Tonight da mentioned about staying over and I explained that he couldn’t but we will pick him up whenever and I will buy him a few cans to take to the party. Cue ds having a major tantrum about how all of friends are staying over and everyone is getting drunk, his exams were so stressful and this is what he’s been looking forward to blah blah. Again I explained what I was willing to do and that this was final. Dh then chimes in about how I need to let him grow up and treat him like an adult. I’m treating him (ds) like a child, everyone gets pissed at 16 it’s a right of passage blah blah.
I am fuming but also really upset. Dh has now said that ds can go and to ignore me. What do I do now? Dh and I rarely have a cross word and ds is a fantastic lad usually - straight A student, never been in trouble etc. Am I being controlling? Is this what usual 16 year olds do? I know I got pissed a few times at that age and tbh it wasn’t a very pleasant experience.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
Prom night aibu?
35 replies
Lollypop27 · 17/06/2018 20:23
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.