Hello,
My husband and I are expecting our second baby in September, I am currently a sahm and my dp is a self employed IT contractor- we live off of his wage entirely- no tax credits/benefits etc. Being a contractor means he does not get pay for holiday or sick leave, and at £180 a day it does make a bit of an impact when he has time off so he only wants to take one week off for paternity leave. However, I am having an elective c section due to medical reasons, and am worried about how much support I may need after recovery, especially already having a three year old. We do have both my dm and mil nearby but they both have busy lives and my dm works so I'm not sure how available they will be. I can't figure out if I am being selfish asking him to have two weeks and possibly making us struggle for money, or if it's reasonable. We do tend to live pay day to pay day rather than have savings but we are not drowning in debt or anything! I also feel a bit sad that it's precious bonding time we will never get back, he has not been to any antenatal appointments or scans and I just feel like he's missing everything but I am also so unbelievably lucky that he works so hard so I can be with our children at home, I shouldn't have a say.
Sorry for such a long message!
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LOL7 · 23/05/2018 13:03
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