my Daughter is 10, she recently got a phone, in fact it was a Christmas present, she’s been monitored on her phone, she knows I will check whatsapp, musicly, texts and whatnot to make sure there’s no bullying going on.
DD is quite sensitive, very sweet, and I promise I’m not being biased she’s lovely, if even a bit too nice, she’s a people pleaser.
Tonight as she was going to bed, I said let me check your phone, she seemed to not want me anywhere near her phone. Ok I said, the deal is we can check your phone to make sure you aren’t being bullied or bullying if you can’t accept it, you lose it.
Her little face dropped and she sat down at the table whilst I looked.
There were texts from “a friend” from school. The texts were saying how someone else in their class said she was ugly and she couldn’t get musicly hearts or something (I don’t care about that!)
And that she had no friends.
Girl went on to say “other child” said he wants to know what would really upset you and make you cry
Dd answered I don’t know, and I don’t care.
“Friend” followed up with can I plz plz plz have a picture of you. DD sent her a picture and “friend” just said thanks.
This started on the day DD went back to school, this girl is now sat next to DD in class.
I may be being so over the top with my thinking as I was bullied as a child severely. I don’t quite think it’s bullying, but to me (as mum I’m going to see if this way!!) its fucking nasty.
Why on earth would you say those things to someone? Then ask for pictures of that person?
I’m fairly certain she wanted a picture to take the piss out of DD.
I wanted to screenshot the messages and send them in to their form tutor and ask him to keep an eye out to see if anything is happenning in school. I don’t want to make it worse.
I want to have her deleted from DDs musicly and have her blocked on DDs phone, DH tells me, what if she realises and decides to take things a step further?
I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to just let it go Incase this is the opportunity to nip it in the bud. Such nasty things to say though.
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hungryhippo90 · 20/04/2018 00:02
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