I've been looking online for practical advice about moving out independently for the first time. I'm in my 20's and single. Unfortunately all the advise I find is aimed at young people going off to university and that's a totally different situation.
I don't want to give too much detail about myself but basically I'm an adult stuck in a situation that I've been trying to get out of for years and I need to leave now. The soonest I can leave is early next year so this is when I intend to leave. I am not entitled to any benefits and do not currently earn any money but I will have a well paid job early next year so long as I keep on track, pass a few exams and make some strong early applications. But I don't know about things such as:
- Can I just secure a job and leave? How quickly does the process take from securing rented property to moving in?
- How do I get a place to live? I'm looking at renting because I can't afford a mortgage and I don't want one at this point in my life (not sure where I want to live permanently). So do I just look online and call people - how does it all work? What will I need in terms of documentation?
- How much money will I need minimum? I'm not entitled to anything and no one can help me in terms of friends/family but I've been saving over the years.
- How do I learn how to pay bills/council tax etc?
Basically, I feel like I don't know how to do this. I already suffer from anxiety and it's almost tipping me over the edge not knowing how to be independent and worrying how I'll cope by myself. I feel like most people don't deal with this (maybe I'm wrong?) because they move out with a partner and two wages or they are assisted by family. I have a very very thin safety net for the next 12 months in terms of support but it's going to vanish and then I'm alone. I feel vulnerable, alone and as if I have no practical life skills. I'm frustrated because I've been trying to be independent for years and with each year I seem to lose more confidence in my ability to be an independent adult. I cannot remain in this situation any longer, for my own sanity and also because my support network can no longer support me.
How do I do this alone? Is there anyone or anything (a guide or something??) that gives a step by step plan of doing this alone? I don't know what I'm doing, I'm worried sick and it feels as though I'm completely alone. I only have myself to depend on and I'm worried about messing up.